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Nga Haxhi Zeneli<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb kam shkruar edhe n\u00eb vitin 2024, duke trajtuar vrasjet e grave shqiptare dhe duke menduar se nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb duhej t\u00eb rikthehesha p\u00ebrs\u00ebri te kjo plag\u00eb e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb son\u00eb. Por ngjarja e fundit monstruoze n\u00eb qytetin e Pej\u00ebs m\u00eb detyron ta rishkruaj k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marrja e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb gruaje \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb akt i r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe trondit\u00ebs p\u00ebr \u00e7do shoq\u00ebri. T\u00eb privosh f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nga n\u00ebna e tyre, si\u00e7 ndodhi s\u00ebrish n\u00eb Pej\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb krim q\u00eb na detyron t\u00eb ndalemi e t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb seriozisht: ku po \u00e7alon njer\u00ebzimi dhe pse kjo pjes\u00eb e mend\u00ebsis\u00eb njer\u00ebzore duket se nuk po evoluon?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, vrasjet e grave po marrin p\u00ebrmasa alarmante edhe n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb shqiptare. Ajo q\u00eb po shohim sot nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb varg rast\u00ebsor krimesh, por pasoj\u00eb e nj\u00eb mentaliteti t\u00eb rr\u00ebnjosur thell\u00eb, q\u00eb buron nga e kaluara dhe vazhdon t\u00eb riprodhohet n\u00eb t\u00eb tashmen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar k\u00ebt\u00eb fenomen, duhet t\u00eb analizojm\u00eb pa dor\u00ebza raportin burr\u00eb-grua n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb. Rolet gjinore, t\u00eb cilat n\u00eb thelb jan\u00eb konstrukte shoq\u00ebrore, vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb trajtohen si nj\u00eb normalitet i pakund\u00ebrshtuesh\u00ebm. Kemi trash\u00ebguar nj\u00eb sistem mend\u00ebsie ku burri shihet si pronar dhe gruaja si pron\u00eb. Kur nj\u00eb bindje e till\u00eb mbizot\u00ebron, burri mund t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e nj\u00eb pushteti absolut mbi partneren e tij, deri n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb sa, n\u00eb trurin e tij t\u00eb err\u00ebt, t\u00eb besoj\u00eb se ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u2019i marr\u00eb edhe jet\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kjo mend\u00ebsi patriarkale ushqehet nga tradita t\u00eb rr\u00ebnjosura thell\u00eb, t\u00eb cilat shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb vazhdon t\u2019i p\u00ebrcjell\u00eb nga brezi n\u00eb brez. K\u00ebshtu krijohet nj\u00eb zinxhir q\u00eb lidh t\u00eb vjetr\u00ebn me t\u00eb ren\u00eb, duke e mbajtur gjall\u00eb pabarazin\u00eb brenda familjes dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Edhe sot, pavar\u00ebsisht ligjeve q\u00eb garantojn\u00eb t\u00eb drejta t\u00eb barabarta, n\u00eb mentalitetin ton\u00eb gruas shpesh i mohohet e drejta mbi pron\u00ebn dhe pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb ekonomike. Ajo nuk lejohet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb pjes\u00ebn q\u00eb i takon nga pasuria e familjes s\u00eb saj t\u00eb origjin\u00ebs, me arsyetimin se \u201cpron\u00ebn e gjen te burri\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por, sipas k\u00ebsaj mend\u00ebsie, kur gruaja shkon n\u00eb familjen e burrit, ajo duhet t\u2019u n\u00ebnshtrohet rregullave t\u00eb asaj sht\u00ebpie. N\u00ebse shpreh mendimin e saj ose k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb drejtat q\u00eb i takojn\u00eb, shpesh p\u00ebrballet me paragjykime, fyerje dhe presion. Pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebtu nis nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e problemit: gruaja trajtohet si e huaj n\u00eb familjen e burrit, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb rast konflikti, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb mbrohet, mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet objekt i dhun\u00ebs dhe p\u00ebrjashtimit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb k\u00ebto rrethana, ligji shpesh anashkalohet dhe vendin e tij e z\u00eb nj\u00eb mentalitet i vjetruar, q\u00eb shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb vazhdon ta ruaj\u00eb si nj\u00eb trash\u00ebgimi t\u00eb shenjt\u00eb, edhe kur ai cenon dinjitetin dhe t\u00eb drejtat e njeriut. Sipas k\u00ebtij koncepti, gruas nuk i takon asgj\u00eb, as n\u00eb familjen e saj t\u00eb origjin\u00ebs dhe as n\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb burrit. Kur ajo guxon t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb i takon, n\u00eb disa raste p\u00ebrballet me pasoja tragjike, si\u00e7 na kujton edhe rasti i Pej\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kjo var\u00ebsi ekonomike dhe sociale e izolon gruan dhe e b\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb cenueshme ndaj dhun\u00ebs. Fjala \u201cburr\u00eb\u201d n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb ende p\u00ebrdoret shpesh si simbol i forc\u00ebs, kontrollit dhe dominimit mbi gruan. Kjo mend\u00ebsi ushqen seksizmin, duke e reduktuar femr\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjet pune, n\u00eb nj\u00eb objekt seksual apo n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjet p\u00ebr lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta shoh\u00eb si nj\u00eb individ me dinjitet, t\u00eb drejta dhe aspirata t\u00eb barabarta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Duhet t\u00eb kujtojm\u00eb se ky fenomen nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i kufizuar vet\u00ebm te shqiptar\u00ebt. N\u00eb mbar\u00eb bot\u00ebn, mij\u00ebra gra vriten \u00e7do vit p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb gjinis\u00eb s\u00eb tyre. Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb popull me num\u00ebr t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, realiteti yn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht shqet\u00ebsues. Ngjarja e fundit n\u00eb Pej\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb em\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb list\u00ebn e gjat\u00eb t\u00eb rasteve t\u00eb femicidit q\u00eb kan\u00eb tronditur shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb dekadave t\u00eb fundit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At\u00ebher\u00eb, nga burojn\u00eb k\u00ebto krime? Nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e p\u00ebrgjigjes gjendet n\u00eb sht\u00ebpit\u00eb tona, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si i edukojm\u00eb dhe i formojm\u00eb brezat e rinj. P\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb vazhdojm\u00eb t\u00eb rrisim djem me ndjenj\u00ebn e superioritetit dhe vajza me ndjenj\u00ebn e n\u00ebnshtrimit, ne vet\u00ebm sa e zgjasim jet\u00ebn e k\u00ebtij problemi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u00ebto stereotipe po na shkat\u00ebrrojn\u00eb: fizikisht grat\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa psigjikisht edhe burrat, duke krijuar nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri t\u00eb mbushur me ankth, vuajtje dhe dhun\u00eb. Tragjedia e Pej\u00ebs duhet t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb si nj\u00eb alarm i fuqish\u00ebm p\u00ebr nj\u00eb zgjim kolektiv.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk mjafton ta d\u00ebnojm\u00eb krimin pasi ai ndodh dhe as ta k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb drejt\u00ebsin\u00eb vet\u00ebm te ligji, n\u00ebse shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb nuk ndryshon mend\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe konceptin e saj mbi gruan. Asnj\u00eb ligj nuk mund ta ndal\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht dhun\u00ebn, n\u00ebse brenda mendjes s\u00eb keqb\u00ebr\u00ebsit vazhdon t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb bindja se gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb pron\u00eb dhe se jeta e saj mund t\u00eb kontrollohet apo t\u00eb merret prej tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prandaj, ndryshimi duhet t\u00eb nis\u00eb nga vet\u00eb ne, nga familjet tona dhe nga m\u00ebnyra se si i edukojm\u00eb brezat e rinj. Duhet t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri ku barazia, respekti dhe dinjiteti njer\u00ebzor t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb vet\u00ebm fjal\u00eb n\u00eb ligj, por vlera t\u00eb rr\u00ebnjosura n\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjen e \u00e7do individi. Sepse, p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ndryshon mend\u00ebsia q\u00eb e lind dhun\u00ebn, historia do t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet, nd\u00ebrsa viktimat do t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Haxhi Zeneli P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb kam shkruar edhe n\u00eb vitin 2024, duke trajtuar vrasjet e grave shqiptare dhe duke menduar se nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb duhej t\u00eb rikthehesha p\u00ebrs\u00ebri te kjo plag\u00eb e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb son\u00eb. Por ngjarja e fundit monstruoze n\u00eb qytetin e Pej\u00ebs m\u00eb detyron ta rishkruaj k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb. Marrja e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":22330,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41885","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41885","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=41885"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41885\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":41886,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41885\/revisions\/41886"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/22330"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=41885"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=41885"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=41885"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}