{"id":41776,"date":"2026-09-11T12:35:38","date_gmt":"2026-09-11T10:35:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/?p=41776"},"modified":"2026-09-11T12:36:28","modified_gmt":"2026-09-11T10:36:28","slug":"dhimbja-e-heshtur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/?p=41776","title":{"rendered":"Dhimbja e heshtur"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Shkruan:<\/strong> Esat Mehmeti<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb pyes veten: pse s\u2019ma lexoni shpirtin? Pse shihni vet\u00ebm at\u00eb q\u00eb tregoj nga jashta, por jo dhimbjen ? Un\u00eb mund t\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshi, t\u00eb heshti e t\u00eb them se jam mir\u00eb, por kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se zemra ime nuk ka dhimbje, mall apo fjal\u00eb t\u00eb path\u00ebna. Pse me gjykoni nga heshtja, kur brenda meje flasin mij\u00ebra fjal\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb tregosh at\u00eb q\u00eb ndien. Ka ndjenja q\u00eb fshihen pas nj\u00eb heshtjeje, kujtime q\u00eb mbahen thell\u00eb dhimbje t\u00eb heshtura.Ka momente n\u00eb jet\u00eb kur fjal\u00ebt b\u00ebhen t\u00eb vogla p\u00ebrball\u00eb asaj q\u00eb ndien shpirti. Ka dhimbje q\u00eb nuk din\u00eb t\u00eb flasin, lot q\u00eb nuk bien nga syt\u00eb dhe heshtje q\u00eb thon\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb mij\u00eb fjal\u00eb. Andaj, mos m\u00eb gjykoni  nga heshtja, por lexoni shpirtin, sepse aty do t\u2019me njiheni m\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un\u00eb jam m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshi edhe kur brenda meje ka stuhi.Heshti edhe at\u00ebher\u00eb kur zemra ime ka aq shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb. Jam m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb them \u201cs\u2019ka gj\u00eb\u201d edhe at\u00ebher\u00eb kur n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb ka shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb m\u00eb kan\u00eb l\u00ebnduar. Jo sepse nuk ndiej, por sepse jam lodhur duke shpjeguar at\u00eb q\u00eb ndiej dhe duke pritur q\u00eb dikush ta kuptoj\u00eb. Brenda shpirtit tim ka kujtime q\u00eb flejn\u00eb n\u00eb heshtje. Ka dit\u00eb kur zemra ime lodhet duke b\u00ebr\u00eb sikur \u00ebsht\u00eb e fort\u00eb. Ka net kur, pasi t\u00eb gjith\u00eb flejn\u00eb, un\u00eb mbetem me mendimet e mia, me kujtime q\u00eb m\u00eb hedhin n\u00eb pyetje q\u00eb askush nuk di t\u2019u jap\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje dhe n\u00eb mengjes p\u00ebrseri zgjohem me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat mendime t\u00eb heshtura.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb jet\u00ebn time ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb i kam falur, por nuk i kam harruar.Ka plag\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb mbyllur n\u00eb dukje, por q\u00eb endetherin kur i prek kujtesa.Ka \u00ebndrra q\u00eb i kam varrosur thell\u00eb, sepse jeta m\u00eb m\u00ebsoi se jo \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb kam d\u00ebshiruar do t\u00ebb\u00ebhet realitet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pse m\u00eb gjykoni nga heshtja ?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jam lodhur duke th\u00ebn\u00eb \u201cs\u2019ka gj\u00eb\u201d,kur n\u00eb shpirtin tim kishte shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u2019u th\u00ebn\u00ebn.Ndoshta jam m\u00ebsuar t\u2019i mbaj t\u00eb ndrydhura ndjenjat brenda vet\u00ebs, sa tani askush nuk e mendon se edhe un\u00eb mund t\u00eb thyhem nj\u00eb dit\u00eb. Edhe njeriu m\u00eb i fort\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dor\u00eb t\u00eb shtrir\u00eb, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb ngroht\u00eb,ose thjesht p\u00ebr dike q\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjon pa t\u00eb gjykuar. Jam munduar aq shum\u00eb ta fshehi dhimbjen,saq\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb fillojn\u00eb t\u2019i besojn\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshjes sime.Mir\u00ebpo, njer\u00ebzit shpesh gjykojn\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb shohin. N\u00ebse hesht, thon\u00eb se jam i ftoht\u00eb. N\u00ebse largohem thon\u00eb se nuk i intereson.N\u00ebse nuk flas, mendojn\u00eb se nuk kam asgj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb.Por askush nuk pyet dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb dhimbja m\u00eb e madhe.Andaj mos u p\u00ebrpiq me fol\u00eb, sepse ai q\u00eb nuk t\u00eb kupton lotin, nuk t\u2019i kupton as fjal\u00ebt.Andaj heshti.Heshti sepse kam shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb then\u00eb…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por, pavar\u00ebsisht gjith\u00e7kaje, un\u00eb ende besoj tek njer\u00ebzit. Ende besoj te mir\u00ebsia. Ende besoj se diku ekziston dikush q\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb t\u00eb shpjegoj\u00eb \u00e7do lot q\u00eb kam derdhur n\u00eb heshtje, sepse do ta kuptoj\u00eb vet\u00eb pse ai lot ka ardhur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por, ne shpesh kalojm\u00eb pran\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrit pa e ditur se \u00e7far\u00eb beteje po zhvillohet n\u00eb heshtje.Ne jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb kur njer\u00ebzit din\u00eb t\u00eb shohin shum\u00eb, por t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb pak. Shikojn\u00eb veshjen, fjal\u00ebt, sjelljen, gabimet\u2026 por rrall\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb shohin plag\u00ebt q\u00eb nuk duken,e nuk ta lexojn\u00eb shpirtin.!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pse m\u00eb gjykoni p\u00ebr heshtjen time?. Pse nuk e kuptoni se ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb edhe  heshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb britm\u00eb ?! Brenda meje ka aq shum\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb path\u00ebna,q\u00eb s\u2019kan\u00eb mundur kurr\u00eb t\u00eb dalin nga buz\u00ebt dhe ndoshta kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb dhimbja m\u00eb e madhe e heshtur.Por nuk jam i vet\u00ebm, si un\u00eb ka edhe t\u00eb tjer\u00eb…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pse s\u2019ma lexoni shpirtin?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk dua fjal\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha. Nuk dua t\u00eb m\u00eb thuhet se gjith\u00e7ka do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet mir\u00eb. Dua vet\u00ebm dike q\u00eb ta kuptoj\u00eb heshtjen time. Brenda meje ekziston nj\u00eb bot\u00eb e t\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb pret nj\u00eb zem\u00ebr t\u00eb ndjeshme dhe nj\u00eb shpirt q\u00eb t\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cNuk ke nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb flas\u00ebsh.T\u00eb kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d!<\/em> Respekti i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb duash edhe heshtjen e tjetrit. T\u00eb respektosh plag\u00ebt e tij. T\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh pran\u00eb tij edhe at\u00ebher\u00eb kur ai nuk t\u00eb k\u00ebrkon ndihm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Andaj, ju pyes edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pse s\u2019ma lexoni shpirtin? Pse m\u00eb shihni vet\u00ebm kur flas, por jo kur heshti dhe kur z\u00ebri m\u00eb dridhet?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndoshta nj\u00eb dit\u00eb do t\u00eb kuptoni se pas k\u00ebtij njeriu q\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb dukej i fort\u00eb, fshihet dikush q\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019u kuptuar drejt e mir\u00eb dhe at\u00ebher\u00eb do ta kuptoni se sa shum\u00eb kam heshtur p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos ju r\u00ebnduar juve me dhimbjen time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un\u00eb nuk k\u00ebrkoj shum\u00eb. Nuk k\u00ebrkoj q\u00eb bota t\u00eb ndalet p\u00ebr dhimbjen time.Un\u00eb  nuk dua  asgj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, vet\u00ebm ta ndiej\u00eb se dikush m\u00eb n\u00eb fund e kuptoi heshtjen time, K\u00ebrkon nj\u00eb zem\u00ebr q\u00eb t\u00eb mos largohet sapo t\u00eb shoh\u00eb plag\u00ebt e mia,sepse ka dhimbje q\u00eb nuk b\u00ebrtasin.Ka lot q\u00eb nuk bien.Ka plag\u00eb q\u00eb nuk duken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Andaj, her\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr kur t\u00eb m\u00eb shihni duke buz\u00ebqeshur, shikoni syt\u00eb e mi, doshta aty do t\u00eb gjeni gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb buz\u00ebt e mia nuk kan\u00eb  guxuar ta thon\u00eb.Shpirti nuk shihet me sy. Ai lexohet me zem\u00ebr.N\u00eb fund t\u00eb dit\u00ebs mos e mat suksesin me at\u00eb qe ke fituar,mate me sa buz\u00ebqeshje iu ke dhuruar njer\u00ebzve, sepse n\u00eb fund ai \u00ebsht\u00eb suksesi m\u00eb i madh.Njeriu ka nj\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe ajo nuk kthehet ma !               <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Shkruan: Esat Mehmeti Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb pyes veten: pse s\u2019ma lexoni shpirtin? Pse shihni vet\u00ebm at\u00eb q\u00eb tregoj nga jashta, por jo dhimbjen ? Un\u00eb mund t\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshi, t\u00eb heshti e t\u00eb them se jam mir\u00eb, por kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se zemra ime nuk ka dhimbje, mall apo fjal\u00eb t\u00eb path\u00ebna. Pse me gjykoni nga […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":17100,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_titles_title":"%%post_title%% %%sep%% %%sitetitle%%","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_robots_follow":"","_seopress_robots_imageindex":"","_seopress_robots_snippet":"","_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_robots_breadcrumbs":"","_seopress_robots_freeze_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_custom_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_canonical":"","_seopress_social_fb_title":"","_seopress_social_fb_desc":"","_seopress_social_fb_img":"","_seopress_social_fb_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_height":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_title":"","_seopress_social_twitter_desc":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_height":0,"_seopress_redirections_value":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled_regex":"","_seopress_redirections_logged_status":"","_seopress_redirections_param":"","_seopress_redirections_type":0,"_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41776","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41776","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=41776"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41776\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":41777,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41776\/revisions\/41777"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/17100"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=41776"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=41776"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=41776"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}