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Shkruan: Esat Mehmeti<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk jam penduar kurr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn q\u00eb iu kam b\u00ebr\u00eb njer\u00ebzve. Zemra ime gjithmon\u00eb gjen paqe n\u00eb \u00e7do mir\u00ebsi q\u00eb kam dhuruar dhe kurr\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer mbrapsht, por sot shoq\u00ebria krijon modelin e t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuar\u00ebs .<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zilia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga temat e trajtuara shum\u00eb her\u00eb ,sidomos nga psikolog\u00ebt. Shpesh lind pyetja: Pse jan\u00eb njer\u00ebzit ziliqar\u00eb dhe \u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb zilia ? Zilia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ves i keq dhe nuk shkakton k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, por vet\u00ebm urrejtje, andaj dhe hipokrizia e personit ziliqar \u00ebsht\u00eb e pafundme. Ziliqari \u00ebsht\u00eb si krimbi i cili p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkoj\u00eb \u00e7do pjes\u00eb t\u00eb trupit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sipas fjalorit t\u00eb Gjuh\u00ebs s\u00eb Sotme Shqipe; \u201dZiliqar \u00ebsht\u00eb personi q\u00eb i ka zili t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, q\u00eb ndien zili p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt; q\u00eb shpreh zili, smir\u00ebzi\u201d f.2243.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nj\u00eb \u201cmik\u201dziliqar b\u00ebn komplimente t\u00eb paqarta. Ai tenton t\u00eb zvog\u00ebloj\u00eb sukseset tuaja. Ai krijon tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ulur ose zvog\u00ebluar meritat, talentin e aft\u00ebsit\u00eb tuaja. Fytyrat e ziliqar\u00ebve fshehin pasigurin\u00eb. Ata ndihen mir\u00eb kur t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt d\u00ebshtojn\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjenja e inferioritetit dhe d\u00ebshira e tij e pap\u00ebrmbajtur. Njer\u00ebzit b\u00ebhen ziliqar\u00eb sidomos nga arritjet e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb i konsiderojn\u00eb t\u00eb rangut t\u00eb tyre. Zilia ve n\u00eb l\u00ebvizj\u00eb njeriun kur sheh dik\u00eb q\u00eb zot\u00ebron nj\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, e cila i mungon atij. Ziliqari nuk u d\u00ebgjon me kujdesin, por i shp\u00ebrfillur. Ai d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb jet\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm, t\u00eb jap\u00eb nj\u00eb mendim t\u00eb men\u00e7ur, apo t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, por p\u00ebr shkak se nuk mund t\u00eb manaxhoj\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e xhelozis\u00eb, ai b\u00ebn gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb t\u00eb duket si person tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Personi ziliqar, duke mbjell paknaq\u00ebsi dhe shqet\u00ebsim, thyen paktin e miq\u00ebsis\u00eb. Ai falsifikon t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, shpik g\u00ebnjeshtra n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ta shoh personin tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb dor\u00ebzohet ndaj vlerave. N\u00eb shikim t\u00eb par\u00eb, personi ziliqar duket i af\u00ebrt dhe i k\u00ebndsh\u00ebm, por e kund\u00ebrta e asaj q\u00eb ai ndien realisht. Ai p\u00ebrdor nj\u00eb lloj komunikimi t\u00eb paqart\u00eb, me shaka dhe batuta p\u00ebr t\u00eb maskuar at\u00eb q\u00eb ai e ndjen dhe vazhdon t\u00eb luaj\u00eb nj\u00eb rol mbizot\u00ebres. Ai thekson \u00e7do gabimin tuaj dhe synon t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb n\u00eb pah qoft\u00eb edhe gabimim m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl tuajin, sepse ai d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb shoh t\u00eb d\u00ebshtuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                             Fjal\u00ebt boshe nuk t\u00eb sigurojn\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Mendoj se e ndryshmja \u00ebsht\u00eb vlera univerzale. V\u00ebrtet\u00eb, un\u00eb ndoshta me pak vones\u00eb e kam kuptua se kur je shum\u00eb miq\u00ebsor, ku je i sjellsh\u00ebm dhe shum\u00eb i shoq\u00ebruesh\u00ebm, njer\u00ebzit mendojn\u00eb ndryshe dhe fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb mosrespektim ndaj teje. Ata e marrin mir\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00ebnde si dob\u00ebsi dhe mund te ecin pas tyre. Njer\u00ebzit ziliqar\u00eb fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb n\u00ebnvlersojn\u00eb, duke menduar se ti je i but\u00eb, vet\u00ebm se ti je njeri i mir\u00eb, por n\u00eb at\u00eb moment ku ti ndryshon sjellj\u00ebn ndaj tyre, ata at\u00ebher\u00eb fillojn\u00eb e t\u00eb respektojn\u00eb. Andaj dhe shenja e par\u00eb q\u00eb tregon q\u00eb nj\u00eb person \u00ebsht\u00eb i keq, \u00ebsht\u00eb e dukshme. Njer\u00ebzit ziliqar nuk e vlersojn\u00eb kurr\u00eb suksesin  dhe t\u00eb arriturat n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Kjo shprehet at\u00ebher\u00eb kur ti ndryshon statisin social; nd\u00ebrton sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb re, nd\u00ebrton familje t\u00eb re, z\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb re, blen nj\u00eb vetur\u00eb t\u00eb re, apo arrin\u00eb suksese t\u00eb reja n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrdit\u00ebshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                            Xhelozia dhe zilia shkojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, ziliqar\u00ebt jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb k\u00ebqi, ata vuajn\u00eb kur ti je mir\u00eb, kur Ju keni sukses dhe vjen nj\u00eb moment q\u00eb ata thon\u00eb:Ppse mos t\u2019i kem un\u00eb ato t\u00eb mira, ato suksese, por i kan\u00eb ata \u201c…! K\u00ebta jan\u00eb xheloz\u00eb dhe b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb e keqja t\u00eb vij\u00eb tek ju, e k\u00ebshtu vazhdojn\u00eb me syrin ziliqar, duke u k\u00ebnaqur e zg\u00ebrdhir\u00eb pas teje. Ai ndihet keq dhe nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i lumturkur t\u00eb sheh ty mir\u00eb dhe kur ti je i sukssh\u00ebm. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i dehur nga zilia. At\u00eb e verbon suksesi yt.K\u00ebta tipa i shkat\u00ebrron shkelqimi i qyve tuaj kur ju jeni i lumtur, kur ju jeni mir\u00eb. Ata duan q\u00eb ti mos t\u00eb jesh i lumtur, ata duan vet\u00ebm veten e tyre. Ata mendojn\u00eb se vet\u00ebm ata meritojn\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur dhe askush tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u00ebta tipa mendojn\u00eb se \u00e7do gj\u00eb qe ti b\u00ebn, \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabuar, edhe pse ti n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde ke b\u00ebr\u00eb sakrifica, ke b\u00ebr\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb mira dhe ke arritur suksese. Ai p\u00ebrseri do do t\u00eb kritikoj\u00eb e gjej\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e t\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201c \u00c7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb ke b\u00ebr\u00eb ti, \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabuar\u201d.Po lind pyetja \ud83d\ude15 pse \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebshtu ?.Pse njeriu shpreh xhelozi, zili?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thjesht\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb ziliqar, sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb ziliqar p\u00ebr ty pra. E keqja dhe zilija jan\u00eb bashk\u00eb, jan\u00eb t\u00eb pandara dhe t\u00eb dyja shkojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku.N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb g\u00ebzoh\u00ebt p\u00ebr suksesin, p\u00ebr t\u00eb arriturat tuaja, p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha ato gjera q\u00eb ti ke arritur, p\u00ebrseri ai b\u00ebhet siliqar dhe nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i lumtur. Ai nuk e d\u00ebshiron suksesin t\u00ebnd. At\u00eb e verbon suksesi yt.Ai nuk don q\u00eb ti t\u00eb jesh i buz\u00ebqeshur. Ai ndihet keq kur ty gjerat nisin t\u00eb marrin rrug\u00ebn e mbar\u00eb, rrug\u00ebn e duhur, kur fati t\u00eb troket n\u00eb der\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa tek ai zilia b\u00ebhet bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb keqen, me sh\u00ebpirtin e keq. Nj\u00eb shpirt ziliqar dhe i keq, \u00ebsht\u00eb e keqja nga vet\u00eb e keqja. Larg prej tyre!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Megjithat\u00eb, sot \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jesh m\u00eb i keqi, pasiq\u00eb konkurrenca  \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e madhe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                                     Marr\u00eb nga \u201c Koha javore \u201c<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Shkruan: Esat Mehmeti Nuk jam penduar kurr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn q\u00eb iu kam b\u00ebr\u00eb njer\u00ebzve. Zemra ime gjithmon\u00eb gjen paqe n\u00eb \u00e7do mir\u00ebsi q\u00eb kam dhuruar dhe kurr\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer mbrapsht, por sot shoq\u00ebria krijon modelin e t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuar\u00ebs . Zilia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga temat e trajtuara shum\u00eb her\u00eb ,sidomos nga psikolog\u00ebt. Shpesh lind […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":17100,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"none","_seopress_titles_title":"%%post_title%% %%sep%% %%sitetitle%%","_seopress_titles_desc":"%%post_excerpt%%","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-38643","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38643","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=38643"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38643\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":38646,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38643\/revisions\/38646"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/17100"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=38643"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=38643"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=38643"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}