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Nga Gjek\u00eb Gjonaj<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb vizite q\u00eb i b\u00ebra   koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb nj\u00eb mikut tim m\u00eb shprehu shqet\u00ebsimin e tij  t\u00eb madh se nuk po i martohet djali  i cili i ka afruar t\u00eb pes\u00ebdhjetat. \u201c Vitet po kalojn\u00eb.  Un\u00eb dhe bashk\u00ebshortja po plakemi.  Me pa durim po presim nj\u00eb nuse  n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. T\u00eb  lumturohet djali yn\u00eb, por  edhe  t\u00eb ket\u00eb kush t\u00eb kujdeset p\u00ebr ne, sepse  na ka r\u00ebnduar pleq\u00ebria. G\u00ebzim m\u00eb t\u00eb madh p\u00ebr ne nuk do t\u00eb kishte sesa   djali yn\u00eb t\u00eb martohej e t\u00eb krijonte  familjen. Por, nuk po bindet edhe pse, p\u00ebr mendimin tim, i ka  kushtet  ekonomike  p\u00ebr martes\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb i arsimuar. Ka kryer fakultetin.  \u00cbsht\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie pune. Pagat  mujore i ka  t\u00eb mira.  I arrir\u00eb edhe n\u00eb karrier\u00eb. Dhe, vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb beqar. Kjo  pritje e tij kaq e gjat\u00eb  p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur partneren e jet\u00ebs  na ka goditur fort ne prind\u00ebrve.  Aq sa nuk kemi qet\u00ebsi e rehati as dit\u00ebn as nat\u00ebn\u201d  m\u00eb thot\u00eb miku im  i p\u00ebrlotur.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jemi n\u00eb shekullin XXI. Tani , si\u00e7 po e  p\u00ebrjetoni  edhe ju vet\u00eb, \u00e7do gj\u00eb  ka ndryshuar. Asgj\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb si m\u00eb par\u00eb. Pra, as martesa. Edhe ne shqiptar\u00ebt kemi vendosur q\u00eb t\u2019i themi  jo traditave  t\u00eb vjetra t\u00eb k\u00ebrkimit t\u00eb dor\u00ebs p\u00ebr partner\u00eb si\u00e7 ndodhte tradicionalisht. Martesa pas t\u00eb 30-tave  \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb  nj\u00eb tendenc\u00eb  gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb rritje edhe tek ne shqiptar\u00ebt\u201d, iu p\u00ebrgjigja, duke  e ngush\u00eblluar at\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rr\u00ebfime t\u00eb ngjashme  t\u00eb vones\u00ebs s\u00eb martes\u00ebs t\u00eb k\u00ebtij burri intelektual mund t\u00eb d\u00ebgjosh n\u00eb shum\u00eb  familje shqiptare n\u00eb Mal t\u00eb Zi,   n\u00eb  fshatra e n\u00eb qytete.   Tani , pas gjysm\u00eb shekulli, termi martes\u00eb   \u00ebsht\u00eb vjetruar.  \u00c7iftet po martohen m\u00eb pak n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme. P\u00ebr pasoj\u00eb kemi   kaq shum\u00eb beqar\/e.  Ka fshatra shqiptare n\u00eb Malin e Zi t\u00eb cilat kan\u00eb mbi 70 beqar\u00eb\/e. Sikurse ka edhe  t\u00eb tilla  fshatra q\u00eb  nuk ka pasur  asnj\u00eb kuror\u00ebzim  p\u00ebr  m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 40 dekada, sepse ato jan\u00eb boshatisur plot\u00ebsisht. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb nj\u00eb bised\u00eb   gojore   q\u00eb kam zhvilluar  miq\u00ebsisht me disa  beqar\u00eb e beqaresha n\u00eb Mal\u00ebsi dhe Ulqin  p\u00ebr arsyet kryesore  t\u00eb beqaris\u00eb s\u00eb tyre  kam fituar  p\u00ebrgjigje t\u00eb ndryshme, si:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  • Jetoj n\u00eb fshat  dhe vajzat  m\u00eb shum\u00eb preferojn\u00eb qytetin.<\/li>
  • Jam i papun\u00eb. Nuk kam t\u00eb ardhura t\u00eb sigurta financiare.<\/li>
  • Un\u00eb thjesht nuk dij  t\u00eb josh pal\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr.<\/li>
  • Me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb do t\u00eb doja  t\u00eb gjej nj\u00eb partner, por nuk di si ta b\u00ebj at\u00eb.<\/li>
  • M\u00eb ka ngjallur frik\u00ebn pandemia q\u00eb ka p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb  bot\u00ebn.<\/li>
  • G\u00ebzoj nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb dhe nuk kam nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ask\u00ebnd.<\/li>
  • Nuk di t\u00eb kuptoj  kur dikush m\u00eb p\u00eblqen, por gjithashtu nuk  di t\u00eb jap nj\u00eb sinjal interesimi.<\/li>
  • Dua t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetem tek forcat e mia.<\/li>
  • Kam nj\u00eb an\u00ebtar t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb moshuar  p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin duhet t\u00eb kujdesem.<\/li>
  •  Dua t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrohem tek karriera.<\/li>
  • Kam frik\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00eb prapa krah\u00ebve emocionet e pasionet e dashuris\u00eb, e  t\u2019u l\u00eb vendin  problematikave martesore.<\/li>
  • T\u00eb jetuarit vet\u00ebm sjell m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrfitime.<\/li>
  • Jeta martesore \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb barr\u00eb p\u00ebr mua.<\/li>
  • D\u00ebshiroj t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb  e fokusuar tek liria dhe puna ime.<\/li>
  • Ende nuk e takova personin e p\u00ebraf\u00ebrt me ndjenjat e mia.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    K\u00ebto dhe arsye t\u00eb tjera  tregojn\u00eb p\u00ebrse \u00e7iftet  po martohen m\u00eb pak dhe m\u00eb von\u00eb.  Ky fenomen jo vet\u00ebm tek shqiptar\u00ebt, por tashm\u00eb global  \u00ebsht\u00eb lajm i keq, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn  p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb ende besojn\u00eb  se martesat dhe familja e sh\u00ebndetshme   formojn\u00eb themelet e nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebrie t\u00eb civilizuar. Familjet e lumtura rrisin f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Edhe Ati i Shenjt\u00eb, Papa Fra\u00e7esku koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, p\u00ebrmes nj\u00eb video mesazhit t\u00eb publikuar nga Rrjeti Bot\u00ebror i Lutjeve t\u00eb Pap\u00ebs, n\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunim me Dikasterin Vatikanas p\u00ebr Laik\u00ebt, Familjen dhe Jet\u00ebn,   ka th\u00ebn\u00eb  se  martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00eb e bukur, duhet durim, por ia vlen. \u201cIa vlen t\u00eb rrezikosh\u201d: pavar\u00ebsisht se martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cudh\u00ebtim impenjativ, nganj\u00ebher\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, nganj\u00ebher\u00eb edhe konfliktual\u201d, \u201ct\u00eb martohesh e ta ndash jet\u00ebn me dik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00eb e bukur\u201d. Papa Fran\u00e7esku p\u00ebrmes  k\u00ebsaj porosi  d\u00ebshiron t\u2019i inkurajoj\u00eb t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb ta nd\u00ebrmarrin k\u00ebt\u00eb udh\u00ebtim \u201cp\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn\u201d, n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin ka nj\u00eb aspekt qendror: dh\u00ebndri dhe nusja nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm, sepse \u201cJezusi i shoq\u00ebron\u201d.  \u201cA \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb ajo, q\u00eb thot\u00eb dikush, se t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb nuk duan t\u00eb martohen, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00eb k\u00ebto koh\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira?\u201d, pyet Papa, i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr problemet dhe nd\u00ebrlikimet e lidhura edhe me pandemin\u00eb. \u201cMartesa – thekson ai – nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm akt shoq\u00ebror: \u00ebsht\u00eb thirrje q\u00eb vjen nga zemra, \u00ebsht\u00eb vendim i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn e k\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrgatitje t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb\u201d. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, \u00ebsht\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm shoq\u00ebrimi i \u00e7iftit nga ana e krejt bashk\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb krishter\u00eb: \u201c<\/em>Ju lutem mos e harroni kurr\u00eb! Zoti ka nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr p\u00ebr ne, dashurin\u00eb e, na k\u00ebrkon ta b\u00ebjm\u00eb ton\u00ebn. Le ta b\u00ebjm\u00eb ton\u00ebn dashurin\u00eb, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00ebndrra e Zotit. E, t\u00eb lutemi p\u00ebr t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb, q\u00eb p\u00ebrgatiten p\u00ebr martes\u00eb me mb\u00ebshtetjen e bashk\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb krishter\u00eb: q\u00eb ata t\u00eb rriten n\u00eb dashuri, me bujari, besnik\u00ebri e durim. Sepse p\u00ebr t\u00eb dashur duhet shum\u00eb durim. Por ia vlen\u201d, \u00ebsht\u00eb shprehur Papa Fra\u00e7esku<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Nga Gjek\u00eb Gjonaj Gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb vizite q\u00eb i b\u00ebra   koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb nj\u00eb mikut tim m\u00eb shprehu shqet\u00ebsimin e tij  t\u00eb madh se nuk po i martohet djali  i cili i ka afruar t\u00eb pes\u00ebdhjetat. \u201c Vitet po kalojn\u00eb.  Un\u00eb dhe bashk\u00ebshortja po plakemi.  Me pa durim po presim nj\u00eb nuse  n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. T\u00eb  lumturohet […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":30074,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[2217],"class_list":["post-30069","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione","tag-gjeke-gjonaj-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30069","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=30069"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30069\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30076,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30069\/revisions\/30076"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/30074"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=30069"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=30069"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=30069"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}