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Nga Aurel Dasareti<\/strong>, USA, ekspert i shkencave ushtarake-psikologjike (dasaretiaurel@yahoo.com.au<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E ardhmja nuk nd\u00ebrton veten, \u00ebsht\u00eb e kaluara q\u00eb nd\u00ebrton t\u00eb ardhmen, dhe ne jemi e ardhmja e s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs.<\/em> <\/em>\u00cbsht\u00eb detyr\u00eb e virtytit q\u00eb njeriu i p\u00ebrket atdheut dhe q\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb atdheut ai lind djem p\u00ebr ta mbrojtur at\u00eb.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Kam lindur dhe jetoj jasht\u00eb trojeve, por e di gjuh\u00ebn amtare dhe ndihem si nj\u00eb prej jush. Pasi fillova t\u00eb paraqitem n\u00eb internetin shqiptar (2001) me shkrimet e mia, kam marr\u00eb periodikisht pyetje n\u00eb forma t\u00eb ndryshme nga njer\u00ebz t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Disa prej tyre thjesht donin t\u2019i b\u00ebnin t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb shqiptar\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehen t\u00eb irrituar, t\u00eb tjer\u00eb ishin t\u00eb bindur se vendit i duhej ndryshim,<\/strong> por nuk i kuptuan se cilat ishin q\u00ebllimet tona, dhe akoma t\u00eb tjer\u00eb nuk besonin n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se vendit i duhej ndryshim dhe menduan se “stabiliteti”<\/strong> ishte shum\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, dhe se do t\u00eb ishte e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar Shqip\u00ebrin\u00eb pa hapur nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht nj\u00eb seri problemesh me t\u00eb cilat nuk do t\u00eb ishim n\u00eb gjendje t’i zgjidhnim kurr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mendova p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje: “\u00c7far\u00eb dua un\u00eb si shqiptar?”<\/em><\/strong> Do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroja q\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje t`ia shtroj secilit prej jush, sepse jam i sigurt se problemet tona jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme, edhe n\u00ebse ato kan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin shkak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Personalisht, do t\u00eb doja t\u00eb kisha mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjohesha n\u00eb vendin tim. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedh kryetarin e shtetit dhe p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsuesit e parlamentit. Jam lodhur duke ndjer\u00eb q\u00eb vota ime nuk llogaritet, dhe se mashtrimi elektoral b\u00ebn q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb jet\u00eb e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb pavar\u00ebsisht nga ajo p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn un\u00eb votoj ose mendoj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk dua t\u00eb vij n\u00eb qendr\u00ebn e votimit dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetem nga nj\u00eb turm\u00eb hajnash q\u00eb thot\u00eb \u201c\u00cbsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull. Ne kemi votuar tashm\u00eb n\u00eb emrin t\u00ebnd\u201d.<\/em><\/strong> Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb demokraci t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, jo nj\u00eb demokraci t\u00eb turpshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb ngrihemi kund\u00ebr korrupsionit. Pse? A nuk jan\u00eb parat\u00eb e popullit. Kur dikush b\u00ebn vjedhje n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb t\u00ebnde, a \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejta jote t\u00eb zbulosh se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb, ta b\u00ebni q\u00eb t\u00eb kthej\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ka vjedhur si dhe t\u00eb shihni se ai merr d\u00ebnimin e duhur p\u00ebr vepr\u00ebn (krimin) q\u00eb hajni ka kryer?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb m\u00ebsuesit t\u00eb kultivojn\u00eb nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb mir\u00ebfillt\u00eb t\u00eb dijes dhe t\u00eb m\u00ebsuarit te nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit e tyre, jo vet\u00ebm aft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur informacionin.<\/em><\/strong> Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb Ministri yn\u00eb i Arsimit t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb profesionist i ditur n\u00eb sektorin e arsimit dhe q\u00eb qeveria do ta mb\u00ebshteste at\u00eb me nj\u00eb buxhet m\u00eb t\u00eb madh sepse arsimimi i gjeneratave t\u00eb reja \u00ebsht\u00eb shpresa jon\u00eb e vetme n\u00ebse duam ta zhvillojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb vend. Ne i humbim p\u00ebrpjekjet (angazhimet) e njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb talentuar sepse nuk kujdesemi p\u00ebr ata.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb oficer\u00ebt e policis\u00eb t\u00eb ishin t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb si ata q\u00eb u portretizuan n\u00eb kinema shum\u00eb koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, njer\u00ebz t\u00eb respektuar me nd\u00ebrgjegje t\u00eb qart\u00eb q\u00eb q\u00ebndronin me ndershm\u00ebri para Flamurit Kuqezi dhe Ligjit kur p\u00ebrdornin autoritetin e tyre, t\u00eb p\u00ebrulur, por t\u00eb vendosur. Ata nuk duhet t\u00eb fyejn\u00eb njer\u00ebzit e varf\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb pafuqish\u00ebm por n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb respekt t\u00eb plot\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata q\u00eb e meritojn\u00eb at\u00eb. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb ata t`i heqin t\u00eb gjitha qelit\u00eb e fshehta t\u00eb torturave n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha stacionet e policis\u00eb, ku edhe ndodhin shum\u00eb \u201cvet\u00ebvrasje\u201d. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb Prokurori n\u00eb Gjykat\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsoj\u00eb v\u00ebrtet popullin dhe t\u00eb <\/em>mbik\u00ebqyr <\/em>Policin\u00eb.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb ne t\u00eb ndalemi s\u00eb t\u00ebrhequri fijet dhe t\u00eb adaptojm\u00eb ligjet p\u00ebr t’i b\u00ebr\u00eb dikujt nj\u00eb favor (joligjor). Nuk dua t\u00eb di q\u00eb djali i drejtuesit t\u00eb nj\u00eb firme juridike \u00ebsht\u00eb em\u00ebruar prokuror publik, edhe pse ai kishte marr\u00eb vet\u00ebm not\u00ebn “mjaftuesh\u00ebm\u201d ose ka kryer vet\u00ebm shkoll\u00ebn fillore. Dhe as nuk do doja t\u00eb dija q\u00eb dikush bleu nj\u00eb cop\u00eb tok\u00eb (p\u00ebr nd\u00ebrtim-pran\u00eb plazhit) me nj\u00eb \u00e7mim qesharak t\u00eb ul\u00ebt vet\u00ebm pse ai ishte nj\u00eb mik i ministrit me t\u00eb cilin dikur bashkarish vidhnin pulat e katundit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb ryshfeti<\/strong> t\u00eb shihej si nj\u00eb veprim kriminal,<\/strong> i pap\u00eblqyesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne. Dhe do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb ryshfet do t\u00eb ishin ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb ndryshe nga shoq\u00ebria (q\u00ebndronin jasht\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb-hajnat), e jo anasjelltas.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb autoritetet t`i kthejn\u00eb metodat e tyre t\u00eb pun\u00ebsimit. Shum\u00eb punonj\u00ebs publik me kualifikime t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosura kan\u00eb ngecur n\u00eb pozita joefektive (vende pune t\u00eb pap\u00ebrshtatshme) dhe aft\u00ebsit\u00eb e tyre profesionale jan\u00eb ndryshkur me kalimin e koh\u00ebs. E vetmja gj\u00eb q\u00eb ata b\u00ebjn\u00eb tani (nga demoralizimi-zhg\u00ebnjimi) \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb lexojn\u00eb gazetat shkarravina t\u00eb amator\u00ebve dhe t\u00eb vizitojn\u00eb \u00e7ajtoret e llafeve t\u00eb kota, n\u00ebse shkojn\u00eb fare n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb punojn\u00eb shum\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb merrnin kurr\u00eb aq pak lek n\u00eb muaj – sepse ata duhet t\u00eb shpenzojn\u00eb gjysm\u00ebn e rrog\u00ebs p\u00ebr transport – gj\u00eb q\u00eb i detyron (nxit\u00eb) t\u00eb pranojn\u00eb ryshfete, dhe q\u00eb pastron (hap) terrenin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri ku paligjshm\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e jet\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb qeveria t\u00eb ndaloj\u00eb trajtimin e t\u00eb rriturve si f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb mund t`i g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb. P\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb humbur t\u00eb gjith\u00eb besimin n\u00eb qeverit\u00eb, n\u00eb at\u00eb mas\u00eb q\u00eb madje edhe lajmet e mira shpesh priten me mosbesim dhe akuza p\u00ebr komplot (veprime prapa shpin\u00ebs).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb shqiptar\u00ebt t\u00eb mund t\u00eb trajtojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin si t\u00eb barabart\u00eb, pa ndarje n\u00eb klas\u00eb, dhe q\u00eb ne t\u00eb ndalemi s\u00eb lart\u00ebsuari padrejt\u00ebsisht disa njer\u00ebz si m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb ne u krijuam si t\u00eb varf\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb pasur, por kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb ne nuk mund ta trajtojm\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin si t\u00eb barabart\u00eb. Imagjinoni n\u00ebse do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb m\u00ebsonim nga njer\u00ebz t\u00eb vendeve tjera, ku nj\u00eb person q\u00eb drejton nj\u00eb Mercedes t\u00eb shtrenjt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i barabart\u00eb me dik\u00eb q\u00eb drejton nj\u00eb Fiat t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr. Askush nuk ka p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi ose respektim m\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb drejtat e njeriut. Arroganca godet njer\u00ebzit kur ndjehen se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt u japin atyre nj\u00eb pamje m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb se sa meritojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb autoritetet t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e t\u00eb ardhurave t\u00eb qeveris\u00eb jan\u00eb parat\u00eb e taksave q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga popullata, dhe se pagat e nj\u00eb n\u00ebpun\u00ebsi publik gjithashtu vijn\u00eb nga popullata. Prandaj, parat\u00eb q\u00eb ju dhe un\u00eb i paguajm\u00eb \u00e7do muaj kompanis\u00eb (d.m.th. qeveris\u00eb) jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat para q\u00eb paguan rrog\u00ebn e tij. At\u00ebher\u00eb ai mund t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb veproj\u00eb si ai q\u00eb ofron sh\u00ebrbime p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit, dhe jo si epror\u00ebt e njer\u00ebzve. A keni thirrur ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetje teknike n\u00eb nj\u00eb kompani t\u00eb telefonis\u00eb celulare dhe jeni trajtuar si inferior? Jo, sepse e humb\u00ebn klientin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb shp\u00ebtojm\u00eb nga ajo e t\u00eb qenit negativ dhe pasiviteti, dhe n\u00eb raport me t\u00eb huajt – inferioriteti. Pyes veten n\u00ebse ata (qeveritar\u00ebt e korruptuar antikomb\u00ebtar\u00eb) na e kan\u00eb mbjell\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb me q\u00ebllim? Dhe n\u00ebse po, si vepruan? Ne jemi b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb komb q\u00eb varet nga gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb. Vet\u00ebm n\u00eb informacionet negative jemi p\u00ebrpara kombeve t\u00eb tjera. Por pse? Sepse t\u00eb gjith\u00eb themi: \u201cKjo tok\u00eb u p\u00ebrket atyre. Le t\u00eb digjet. Pse duhet t\u00eb kujdesem? Un\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb korrigjoj gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e keqe n\u00eb vendin ton\u00eb, por ama mund t\u00eb korrigjoj gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e keqe n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb bot\u00ebn\u201d.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsojm\u00eb t\u00eb kemi mendime t\u00eb ndryshme, pa pasur nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshojm\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb ne, pavar\u00ebsisht feve t\u00eb ndryshme, t\u00eb mund t\u00eb trajtojm\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin me respekt dhe t\u00eb supozojm\u00eb se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt kan\u00eb q\u00ebllime t\u00eb mira, dhe t\u00eb mos ken\u00eb frik\u00eb nga fantazma e grindjeve fetare mes nesh, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn jemi mashtruar t\u00eb besojm\u00eb se ekziston. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb mund ta kuptojm\u00eb se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne jemi shqiptar\u00eb, dhe q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb kemi t\u00eb drejta dhe detyrime t\u00eb barabarta n\u00eb bot\u00ebn ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb mund ta duam nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u2019i l\u00ebm\u00eb m\u00ebnjan\u00eb ndjenjat e dyshimit t\u00eb pabazuar. Faktikisht nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb kur dikush lufton p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur di\u00e7ka t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr vendin e tij, ai duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb spiun ose i p\u00ebrkrahur nga forcat e huaja, ose, n\u00eb rastin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, t\u00eb ndjek fam\u00ebn. Pse hidh\u00ebrimi, urrejtja dhe shikimi n\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb keqen tek bashk\u00ebkomb\u00ebsit e tjer\u00eb ka mbizot\u00ebruar ndaj solidaritetit, besnik\u00ebris\u00eb, v\u00ebllaz\u00ebrimit, unitetit dhe besimit n\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Kombet e m\u00ebdha gjithmon\u00eb kan\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb veshur si gangster\u00eb dhe t\u00eb vegjlit si prostituta.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tokat tona na jan\u00eb grabitur-cop\u00ebtuar e pushtuar nga fqinj\u00ebt gjakatar\u00eb me ndihm\u00ebn e t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenjve. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 vrasjeve masive, terrorit dhe gjenocidit na u rr\u00ebmbye edhe liria dhe pavar\u00ebsia e Vendit. Do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb \u00ebndrra e t\u00eb gjith\u00eb neve t\u00eb jet\u00eb ribashkimi, Shqip\u00ebria <\/strong>e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ajo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb patetike \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb g\u00ebrmoni kok\u00ebn n\u00eb r\u00ebr\u00eb dhe t\u00eb shpresoni q\u00eb problemi do t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb nga vetvetja, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb merrni disa p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb ndihmoni n\u00eb zgjidhjen e problemeve.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meq\u00eb ra fjala(…) \u00cbsht\u00eb e drejta ime t\u00eb jem n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrroj dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb ndjek \u00ebndrr\u00ebn time. Dhe, \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejta jote t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrosh dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u00eb ndjek\u00ebsh \u00ebndrr\u00ebn t\u00ebnde. N\u00ebse ndalemi s\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrruari, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb do t\u00eb vdesim.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Aurel Dasareti, USA, ekspert i shkencave ushtarake-psikologjike (dasaretiaurel@yahoo.com.au) E ardhmja nuk nd\u00ebrton veten, \u00ebsht\u00eb e kaluara q\u00eb nd\u00ebrton t\u00eb ardhmen, dhe ne jemi e ardhmja e s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs. \u00cbsht\u00eb detyr\u00eb e virtytit q\u00eb njeriu i p\u00ebrket atdheut dhe q\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb atdheut ai lind djem p\u00ebr ta mbrojtur at\u00eb. *** Kam lindur dhe […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":24225,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26298","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26298","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=26298"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26298\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26299,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26298\/revisions\/26299"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/24225"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=26298"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=26298"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=26298"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}