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Nga Gladiola Jorbus<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kushdo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i apasionuar pas filmave komedi t\u00eb aktorit Jim Carrey, e di se ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb mbushur plot me momente qesharake dhe skena t\u00eb paharrueshme. N\u00eb filmin \u201cG\u00ebnjeshtar, g\u00ebnjeshtar\u201d Jim Carrey luan rolin e Fletcher Reede, nj\u00eb avokat i bab\u00ebzitur dhe egocentrik, i fokusuar aq shum\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00ebn e tij, saq\u00eb e ka l\u00ebn\u00eb pas dore, djalin e vet\u00ebm Max.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I biri mendon nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme mbi qirinjt\u00eb e tort\u00ebs, n\u00eb dit\u00eblindjen e tij t\u00eb pest\u00eb, pik\u00ebrisht q\u00eb babai Fletcher t\u00eb mos thot\u00eb asnj\u00eb g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dit\u00eb. E k\u00ebshtu, bota e Fletcher-it (g\u00ebnjeshtarit t\u00eb pandreqsh\u00ebm) krejt papritur, kthehet kok\u00ebposht\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb fakt, g\u00ebnjeshtari i pandreqsh\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb analogu i atij q\u00eb vuan nga e ashtuquajtura sindroma e Pinokut. Ajo manifestohet si nj\u00eb ankth i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb psikologjik, e cila shkakton shum\u00eb vuajtje p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.
Kryesisht, karakteristikat e g\u00ebnjeshtarit patologjik jan\u00eb: t\u00eb g\u00ebnjej\u00eb edhe kur s\u2019esht\u00eb e nevojshme; t\u00eb qenit i paduruar, manipulimi, intoleranca ndaj kritikave, apo mosqasja ndaj marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve emocionale t\u00eb pjekura. G\u00ebnjeshtra i dhuron joshjen, sigurin\u00eb e lirin\u00eb e pakufizuar. T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto sh\u00ebrbejn\u00eb si motive stimuluese dhe karikuese p\u00ebr ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb fakt ekzistojn\u00eb njer\u00ebz me k\u00ebt\u00eb “s\u00ebmundje”. Fillimisht, kontakti me ta \u00ebsht\u00eb normal, por gradualisht vihet re intensifikimi i nervozizmit. S\u00eb pari, g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt fitojn\u00eb besimin e atyre q\u00eb jan\u00eb p\u00ebrreth, por brenda nj\u00eb kohe t\u00eb caktuar p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb keq, sepse askush s\u2019u beson m\u00eb, as kur thon\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn. Gjithsesi, ata s\u2019reshtin s\u00eb g\u00ebnjyeri. \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb, qoft\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb, familjes apo miq\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e p\u00ebrkushtuar pas leximit apo q\u00eb kan\u00eb nivel t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqsh\u00ebm dijesh, p.sh. fal\u00eb ndikimit kompetent t\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00ebtari t\u00eb familjes jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb rreziksh\u00ebm. Ata mund t\u00eb mashtrojn\u00eb fare mir\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, se jan\u00eb t\u00eb diplomuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb profesion t\u00eb caktuar dhe k\u00ebshtu t\u00eb nd\u00ebrmarrin inisiativa nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet, e t\u2019u sjellin gjithfar\u00eb telashesh dhe andrallash \u201cviktimave \u201c t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00ebse jeni duke diskutuar me nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtar dhe doni t\u00eb mbizot\u00ebroni situat\u00ebn, duhet t\u00eb kontrolloni reagimet emocionale. Disa studime demonstrojn\u00eb se g\u00ebnjeshtari mund t\u00eb zbulohet p\u00ebrmes tonit t\u00eb z\u00ebrit, shmangies s\u00eb kontaktit me sy, mbajtjes s\u00eb duarve n\u00eb xhepa, uljes s\u00eb kok\u00ebs, p\u00ebrthyerjes s\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebve apo ngurt\u00ebsimit t\u00eb trupit; i cili duket se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aspak n\u00eb harmoni me g\u00ebnjeshtr\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por ekziston dhe ana tjet\u00ebr e medaljes. Disa persona preferojn\u00eb t\u2019u besojn\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtrave, premtimeve boshe dhe iluzioneve p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos humbur ndoshta nj\u00eb person t\u00eb dashur, q\u00eb realisht (munges\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsimi), e kan\u00eb humbur tashm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shtirja padyshim mund t\u00eb rezultoj\u00eb m\u00eb e leht\u00eb se e v\u00ebrteta, por pasojat do t\u00eb ishin fatale. Do t\u00eb shk\u00ebputeshin gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb tep\u00ebr nga vetja, nga ajo \u00e7\u2019ka jan\u00eb e \u00e7\u2019ka u nevojitet v\u00ebrtet. Sepse dhe e v\u00ebrteta l\u00ebndon, jo vet\u00ebm g\u00ebnjeshtra, por ndryshe nga kjo e fundit t\u00eb ndihmon t\u00eb rritesh dhe t\u00eb ec\u00ebsh me kok\u00ebn lart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si p\u00ebrfundim, me g\u00ebnjeshtrat, k\u00ebto pohime q\u00eb shtremb\u00ebrojn\u00eb dhe err\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn p\u00ebrballemi vazhdimisht. Madje disa syresh i kemi em\u00ebrtuar dhe t\u00eb bardha, p\u00ebr shkak se ato nuk d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb, nuk krijojn\u00eb tensione, pse jo t\u00eb nxjerrin dhe nga situata. P\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb, askush s\u2019mund ta mohoj\u00eb se n\u00eb raste t\u00eb caktuara ka b\u00ebr\u00eb sikur ka\u201cl\u00ebpir\u00eb\u201d buz\u00ebt p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gjell\u00eb aspak t\u00eb shijshme, ka derdhur lot krokodili, ka simuluar k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi seksusale, ka buz\u00ebqeshur me falsitet duke i uruar \u201cdit\u00eb t\u00eb mbar\u00eb\u201d apo i ka shtr\u00ebnguar dor\u00ebn dikujt, q\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, s\u2019e duron dot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poeti i famsh\u00ebm francez Louis Aragon, mjesht\u00ebr i s\u00eb fsheht\u00ebs dhe i mashtrimit shprehej se g\u00ebnjeshtrat “jan\u00eb fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb veshim si doreza, p\u00ebr t\u00eb fshehur duart tona t\u00eb deformuara”.
Megjithat\u00eb s\u2019duhet t\u00eb harrojm\u00eb nj\u00eb postulat q\u00eb vlen sa vet\u00eb jeta: \u201cG\u00ebnjeshtra nuk e leht\u00ebson dot shpirtin, si\u00e7 mund ta leht\u00ebsoj\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Gladiola Jorbus Kushdo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i apasionuar pas filmave komedi t\u00eb aktorit Jim Carrey, e di se ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb mbushur plot me momente qesharake dhe skena t\u00eb paharrueshme. N\u00eb filmin \u201cG\u00ebnjeshtar, g\u00ebnjeshtar\u201d Jim Carrey luan rolin e Fletcher Reede, nj\u00eb avokat i bab\u00ebzitur dhe egocentrik, i fokusuar aq shum\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00ebn e tij, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":23478,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24213","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24213","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=24213"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24213\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24214,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24213\/revisions\/24214"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/23478"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=24213"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=24213"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=24213"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}