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Nga Gladiola Jorbus<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sa her\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb grua vdes
nga dora e nj\u00eb burri
Mua, m\u00eb vjen turp
q\u00eb jam burr\u00eb\u2026
Enrico Brignano<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prej vitesh po bashk\u00ebjetojm\u00eb me nj\u00eb fenomen q\u00eb ka arritur p\u00ebrmasa t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonshme, feminicidin – vrasjet e femrave. Koh\u00ebt e fundit, t\u00eb gjitha mediat (video \/ audio, shtyp, internet) d\u00ebshmojn\u00eb ngjarje t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta, t\u00eb lidhura n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb me dhun\u00ebn ndaj gruas q\u00eb p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb me vdekjen e viktim\u00ebs.
\nShpesh, ndodh q\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohen n\u00eb “objekt” t\u00eb hakmarrjes nga (ish) partner\u00ebt, (ish) bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt, por edhe t\u00eb (pa) njohur me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq jan\u00eb njohur dhe kan\u00eb chat-uar her\u00eb pas here, n\u00ebp\u00ebr rrjete sociale.
\n Pra, fenomeni i dhun\u00ebs mashkullore ndaj gruas vazhdon t\u00eb mbetet nj\u00eb tem\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, aktuale dhe delikate. Pavar\u00ebsisht se konsiderohet e ezauruar (tema e feminicidit) deri n\u00eb viktim\u00ebn e radh\u00ebs, ajo p\u00ebrb\u00ebn nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim alarmant n\u00eb \u00e7do shoq\u00ebri, e ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00eb ton\u00ebn q\u00eb ruan ende shum\u00eb elemente arkaike.
\nFemra, bashk\u00ebshortja, e dashura, motra, bija vritet p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb nderin n\u00eb vend, \u201cnj\u00eb turp\u201d q\u00eb i ka rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt n\u00eb injoranc\u00ebn e s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs relativisht t\u00eb af\u00ebrt.
\n Edhe sot e gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebn, masakrat e dhun\u00ebs mashkullore ndaj gruas kodohen me mbishkrimin: “krim pasionant, dashurie, ekstaze apo moment xhelozie”; gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebrsosurisht e gatshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb justifikuar, mbrojtur, pothuajse ligj\u00ebruar nj\u00eb akt monstruoz.
\nNjeriu nuk lind i dhunsh\u00ebm, por b\u00ebhet, i kusht\u00ebzuar nga rrethanat dhe sjelljet e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb kontribuojn\u00eb ose kryejn\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht edukimin e tij.
\nNdoshta vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit nuk din\u00eb t\u00eb kanalizojn\u00eb energjin\u00eb, shpeshher\u00eb destruktive t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre, pa (duke) qen\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm se pa dashje po rrisin nj\u00eb kriminel, i cili n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen do t\u2019u sjell\u00eb jo pak andralla, familjes e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.
\nShpeshher\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm n\u00eb aktet e dhun\u00ebs q\u00eb et\u00ebrit kryejn\u00eb mbi n\u00ebnat e tyre.
\nE jo rrall\u00eb, k\u00ebto n\u00ebna jan\u00eb gra luftarake dhe t\u00eb afta q\u00eb mund t\u2019i provokojn\u00eb komplekse t\u00eb tilla inferioriteti nj\u00eb mashkulli, q\u00eb sip\u00ebror n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr nga forca e marr\u00eb fizike.
\n P\u00ebr d\u00ebshtimin e tij si njeri, p\u00ebr egon e tij t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb, p\u00ebr \u00e7do problem dhe mosrealizim, ai faj\u00ebson gruan dhe alternativa e vetme, shfrimi i tij, mbetet dhuna.
\nA do t\u00eb jen\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje p\u00ebrpjekjet e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb civile, sensibilizimi p\u00ebrmes spoteve publicitare, masat e \u00e7do qeverie ta minimizojn\u00eb vijim\u00ebsin\u00eb e k\u00ebtyre incidenteve t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuara e t\u00eb urryera?!
\nN\u00eb fakt, dhuna ndaj grave – p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb \u2013 gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb tep\u00ebr po qend\u00ebrzohet n\u00eb debate publike. Arsyeja \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb: edhe pse po jetojm\u00eb nj\u00eb epok\u00eb t\u00eb qytet\u00ebruar, s\u00ebrish dhuna arrin dimensione barbare.
\nNdon\u00ebse modernizmi ka p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb pothuajse gjith\u00e7ka: teknologjin\u00eb, transportin, komunikimin, t\u00eb ushqyerit, fatkeq\u00ebsisht mir\u00ebkuptimi dhe respekti ndaj gruas apo nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie m\u00eb njer\u00ebzore, duket ende nj\u00eb perspektiv\u00eb e larg\u00ebt p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ku jetojm\u00eb.
\nDhuna ndaj gruas mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizohet fare thjesht n\u00eb trek\u00ebnd\u00ebshin: “k\u00ebrc\u00ebnim, posht\u00ebrim, rrahje”: “Dhuna me baz\u00eb gjinore nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm sulm fizik nga nj\u00eb burr\u00eb kundrejt nj\u00eb gruaje, por gjithashtu p\u00ebrfshin abuzimin psikologjik, shantazhin ekonomik, k\u00ebrc\u00ebnimet, dhun\u00ebn seksuale, persekutimin, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mb\u00ebrritur n\u00eb skajin m\u00eb ekstrem \u2013 feminicidin.
\nE p\u00ebrsa u p\u00ebrket statistikave, ato s\u2019jan\u00eb asnj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb sigurta. Mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendim akte dhune deri n\u00eb vrasje ndaj grave, por ky num\u00ebr nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht i besuesh\u00ebm, sepse ende jan\u00eb n\u00eb minoranc\u00eb grat\u00eb q\u00eb raportojn\u00eb se kan\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar dhun\u00eb, dhe akoma m\u00eb t\u00eb pakta rastet q\u00eb gjykohen apo nd\u00ebshkohen.
\nMegjithat\u00eb, q\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri t\u00eb konsiderohet e lir\u00eb, e barabart\u00eb dhe e emancipuar, e drejta e gruas p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndier e mbrojtur dhe e sigurt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb sine qua non (kusht i domosdosh\u00ebm).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Gladiola Jorbus Sa her\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb grua vdes nga dora e nj\u00eb burri Mua, m\u00eb vjen turp q\u00eb jam burr\u00eb\u2026 Enrico Brignano Prej vitesh po bashk\u00ebjetojm\u00eb me nj\u00eb fenomen q\u00eb ka arritur p\u00ebrmasa t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonshme, feminicidin – vrasjet e femrave. Koh\u00ebt e fundit, t\u00eb gjitha mediat (video \/ audio, shtyp, internet) d\u00ebshmojn\u00eb ngjarje t\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":23478,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24009","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24009","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=24009"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24009\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24011,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24009\/revisions\/24011"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/23478"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=24009"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=24009"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=24009"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}