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Nga Gladiola Jorbus<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tashm\u00eb mund t\u00eb thuhet se gruaja moderne ka pushtuar\nhap\u00ebsira t\u00eb m\u00ebdha n\u00eb jet\u00ebn publike apo profesionale, e megjithat\u00eb, ajo vazhdon\nt\u00eb punoj\u00eb pothuajse dy her\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb, se sa burri i saj. Shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb disa\ndetyra i konsideron t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht fem\u00ebrore si: si\u00e7 jan\u00eb gatimi, rritja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve\napo pastrimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shpeshher\u00eb, ky problem mund t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb\ndram\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, sepse perceptimi mbi detyrat familjare \u00ebsht\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm. N\u00ebnat\nshqiptare i kan\u00eb rritur djemt\u00eb duke u siguruar dhe leht\u00ebsuar gjith\u00e7ka, pa i p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb\nn\u00eb asnj\u00eb detyr\u00eb, ndaj kur burrat e ardhsh\u00ebm ose ish t\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelurit e mamave,\nd\u00ebgjojn\u00eb ankesat e gruas n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb indiferentiz\u00ebm e mosp\u00ebrfshirje n\u00eb\ndetyrat e konsideruara tradicionalisht fem\u00ebrore, ata nuk kuptojn\u00eb ose nuk duan\nt\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb p\u00ebrse po ndodh ky rebelim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sipas tyre, gruaja thjesht po p\u00ebrs\u00ebrit historin\u00eb, at\u00eb\nq\u00eb kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00ebna e tij dhe n\u00ebna e saj nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht, pra, sh\u00ebrbim\npa orar ndaj familjes s\u00eb vet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb kushteve familjare, m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs s\u00eb rritjes\napo k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrimit, p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht burrat nuk shfaqin shqet\u00ebsime t\u00eb m\u00ebdha n\u00eb\nlidhje me detyrat e ashtuquajtura, pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. N\u00ebse kaosi nuk mbret\u00ebron\nn\u00eb sht\u00ebpit\u00eb tona, kjo vjen p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb kontributit t\u00eb pa\u00e7muar t\u00eb gruas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb dallim nga mend\u00ebsi t\u00eb tjera per\u00ebndimore, shum\u00eb\nlarg anadollizmit dhe patriarkalizmit q\u00eb na karakterizon n\u00eb disa aspekte,\nburrat e quajn\u00eb t\u00eb natyrsh\u00ebm dhe normal kontributin e nj\u00ebansh\u00ebm n\u00eb familjet e\ntyre. Po p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb arsyeve t\u00eb sip\u00ebrp\u00ebrmendura, ndon\u00ebse grat\u00eb punojn\u00eb fort, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri\nburrat rezultojn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebpaguar dhe jan\u00eb t\u00eb pozicionuar n\u00eb rangje m\u00eb t\u00eb\nlarta. Problemi i barazis\u00eb gjinore \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr tem\u00eb e nxeht\u00eb p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb\nton\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 \u201cA mund t\u00eb hedh\u00ebsh\nmbeturinat ?A mund t\u00eb shoq\u00ebrosh f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb apo n\u00eb kurs ? Mund t\u00eb shkosh\nn\u00eb supermarket? etj”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u00ebto jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm disa nga formulat klishe me t\u00eb cilat\ngrat\u00eb \u201cbezdisin\u201d burrat e tyre, me shpres\u00ebn se ai do t\u2019i ndihmoj\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb,\nn\u00eb mos e pamundur t\u00eb p\u00ebrballosh e vetme barr\u00ebn e familjes, edhe pse, m\u00eb se normale\nn\u00eb kultur\u00ebn ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eb gjith\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat t\u00eb drejta dhe t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat\ndetyra, por jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsuar. Nd\u00ebr brezat e rinj apo nd\u00ebr\nish intelektual\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb moshuar mund t\u00eb vihen re p\u00ebrqasje kontributive ndaj\nfamiljes, bashk\u00ebshortes a f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, por numri i tyre n\u00eb krahasim me shumic\u00ebn d\u00ebrrmuese,\nl\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebshiruar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00ebse meshkujt do t\u00eb mendonin m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr partneren\ne tyre dhe p\u00ebr faktin e pamohuesh\u00ebm se t\u00eb mbash nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb,\nat\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb gjendej nj\u00eb zgjidhje.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk ka kuptim q\u00eb nj\u00ebra pal\u00eb t\u00eb punoj\u00eb e tjetri t\u00eb nd\u00ebrroj\u00eb\nkanalet televizive, t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb sy gjum\u00eb, t\u00eb rrij\u00eb me shok\u00ebt apo t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb nj\u00eb\nhobi t\u00eb parap\u00eblqyer. A e mban secili n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ekuilibruar pesh\u00ebn mbi supet\ne tij? Kanceri i nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje jan\u00eb grindjet e nj\u00ebpasnj\u00ebshme dhe kur e\ndrejta anon nga femra, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb pranohet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb paradoksale q\u00eb  burrat, ndon\u00ebse jan\u00eb aktor\u00eb t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm t\u00eb\nsken\u00ebs politike, sociale, ekonomike, artistike, sportive dhe spikasin\nvazhdimisht n\u00ebn dritat e prozhektor\u00ebve, iu mungon organizimi minimal n\u00eb kryerjen\ne disa detyrave themelore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dhe m\u00eb e bukura q\u00ebndron n\u00eb faktin se kjo pak u\nintereson. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit do t\u00eb gjendet nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb do t\u2019i jap\u00eb drejtimin e\nduhur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Besoj se ka ardhur dita q\u00eb meshkujt shqiptar\u00eb  t\u00eb rriten v\u00ebrtet dhe t\u00eb fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebvizin brenda\nmjedisit familjar, duke kontribuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe n\u00eb rritjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebrve\u00e7 se do t\u00eb ndihmonin bashk\u00ebshortet e tyre, kjo\ndo t\u00eb ndikonte pozitivisht n\u00eb forcimin e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies prind-f\u00ebmij\u00eb, mir\u00ebkuptimin\nmidis partner\u00ebve  dhe do t\u00eb sh\u00ebnonte hapa p\u00ebrpara n\u00eb emancipimin\ne shoq\u00ebris\u00eb son\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Gladiola Jorbus Tashm\u00eb mund t\u00eb thuhet se gruaja moderne ka pushtuar hap\u00ebsira t\u00eb m\u00ebdha n\u00eb jet\u00ebn publike apo profesionale, e megjithat\u00eb, ajo vazhdon t\u00eb punoj\u00eb pothuajse dy her\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb, se sa burri i saj. Shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb disa detyra i konsideron t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht fem\u00ebrore si: si\u00e7 jan\u00eb gatimi, rritja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve apo pastrimi. Shpeshher\u00eb, ky […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":23483,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23482","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23482","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=23482"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23482\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23484,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23482\/revisions\/23484"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/23483"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=23482"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=23482"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=23482"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}