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Nga Gladiola Jorbus
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Ime bij\u00eb m\u00eb pyet\nshpeshher\u00eb: – Ku jetoja un\u00eb para se t\u00eb isha n\u00eb barkun t\u00ebnd? \u2013 N\u00eb zemr\u00ebn time, –\ni p\u00ebrgjigjem duke e p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur dhe shtr\u00ebnguar fort n\u00eb p\u00ebrqafimin tim.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 N\u00eb fakt mendoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb\nplot\u00ebsisht e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb foshnja ngjizet dhe lind fillimisht, n\u00eb mendjen dhe\nzemr\u00ebn e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb saj. P\u00ebr n\u00ebnt\u00eb muaj radhazi, n\u00ebna \u00ebnd\u00ebrron dhe projekton\nkukull\u00ebn ose princin e ardhsh\u00ebm q\u00eb do t\u2019ia ndryshoj\u00eb jet\u00ebn kryek\u00ebput. Deri n\u00eb\n\u00e7astin kur f\u00ebmija del n\u00eb drit\u00eb, fantazit\u00eb sh\u00ebrbejn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb form\u00eb bebes s\u00eb\nshum\u00ebpritur dhe nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht p\u00ebr t\u00eb ushqyer shpresat dhe d\u00ebshirat e prind\u00ebrve,\npavar\u00ebsisht se p\u00ebr t\u00eb sat\u00ebn her\u00eb po e p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sipas disa psikolog\u00ebve, mendimet e n\u00ebn\u00ebs s\u00eb ardhshme\nkarakterizohen nga nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrthurje perceptimesh e ndijimesh q\u00eb enden midis s\u00eb\nkaluar\u00ebs, s\u00eb tashmes dhe t\u00eb  ardhmes. Ajo\nrikthehet n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb e hershme dhe kujton n\u00ebn\u00ebn e saj; m\u00eb pas vjen n\u00eb\nrealitetin aktual, n\u00eb gjendjen q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb \u2013 dhe imagjinon f\u00ebmij\u00ebn q\u00eb do t\u00eb ket\u00eb\ndhe se \u00e7\u2019lloj n\u00ebne do t\u00eb jet\u00eb. Thon\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebna lind nj\u00ebher\u00ebsh me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 P\u00ebrgjat\u00eb rrug\u00ebtimit\nsi prind i ri apo me eksperienc\u00eb t\u00eb shoq\u00ebrojn\u00eb dyshimet, bindjet, pendesa,\nfrika, dashuria sip\u00ebrore mbi vetveten, shpresat dhe iluzionet, identifikimi i\ndyfisht\u00eb, her\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e her\u00eb me veten dhe aty kupton se do t\u00eb jetosh\nmarrin\u00eb e hyjnoren. Dueli vazhdon deri n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb foshnja fle apo qan n\u00eb\nkrah\u00ebt tuaja, aty ku duket sikur ju kan\u00eb vendosur globin t\u00eb mish\u00ebruar n\u00eb\nmrekullin\u00eb e madhe t\u00eb krijimit t\u00eb pareshtur t\u00eb jet\u00ebs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagjinata e gruas shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb koklavitet me aktivitetin\nonirik gjat\u00eb shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb, duke intensifikuar pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrqendrimin mbi\nkryefjal\u00ebn e shtatzanis\u00eb \u2013 foshnja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ky proces shkakton nj\u00eb rritje t\u00eb konsiderueshme t\u00eb t\u00eb\nmenduarit t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm dhe joreal, por jo vet\u00ebm.  N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb reflektimi t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm, b\u00ebhet\nvler\u00ebsimi i s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs dhe planet p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb faz\u00eb, n\u00ebna shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb dhe babai i ardhsh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb\nngren\u00eb pik\u00ebpyetje mbi marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet me prind\u00ebrit e tyre dhe nj\u00ebherazi t\u00eb\ndistancohen nga q\u00ebndrime t\u00eb caktuara (Un\u00eb kurr\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb sillesha n\u00eb aksh form\u00eb\nme f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim si\u00e7 kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb ata) ose anasjelltas, do t\u00eb p\u00ebrcillnin prej tyre\nmodele pozitive, p\u00ebrpos faktit q\u00eb shum\u00eb syresh trash\u00ebgohen e pse jo dhe kultivohen.\nAt\u00ebher\u00eb fantazia b\u00ebn nj\u00eb k\u00ebrcim kuantik nga e shkuara drejt s\u00eb ardhmes dhe\npyetjet drejtuar vetvetes, se \u00e7\u2019prind do t\u00eb jem vall\u00eb mbeten persekutuese. N\u00eb\nfaz\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb shtatzanis\u00eb, mbizot\u00ebron qasja p\u00ebr t\u00eb pranuar e besuar kryesisht,\nat\u00eb q\u00eb po ndodh. N\u00ebna e ardhshme duhet ende t\u00eb realizoj\u00eb mendimin se po pret nj\u00eb\nf\u00ebmij\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, ky\nmoment i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebrforcohet nga efekti impresionues i ultratingullit t\u00eb\npar\u00eb: rrahja e asaj zemre t\u00eb vog\u00ebl q\u00eb duket sikur t\u00eb thot\u00eb: “M\u00eb prit. Un\u00eb\nekzistoj me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tremujori i dyt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb lejon nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb komunikoj\u00eb me\nf\u00ebmij\u00ebn e saj dhe duke u mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb  l\u00ebvizjet\ne fetusit, krijon nj\u00eb gjysm\u00eb ideje mbi temperamentin e tij\/ saj. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb\nperiudh\u00eb, n\u00ebna e ardhshme nis t\u00eb interpretoj\u00eb dhe t\u2019u jap\u00eb vler\u00eb sinjaleve t\u00eb\nfoshnj\u00ebs, ashtu si\u00e7 do t\u00eb veproj\u00eb n\u00eb vazhdim p\u00ebr t\u2019ia plot\u00ebsuar nevojat pas\nlindjes e komunikuar pareshtur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb tremujorin e fundit, situata ndryshon. Mungon dhe pak q\u00eb\nf\u00ebmija t\u00eb vij\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe fantazia apo mendimet (kur eksperienca \u00ebsht\u00eb\np\u00ebrjetuar m\u00eb par\u00eb) fokusohen n\u00eb sall\u00ebn e lindjes. Mjeku gjinekolog luan nj\u00eb rol\nshum\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb udh\u00ebtimin unik \u201cJet\u00ebt paralele brenda t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin trup\u201d. Ai\nduhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb mb\u00ebshtet\u00ebs, ashtu si partneri, familjar\u00ebt, t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit e miqt\u00eb q\u00eb\nndajn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi. N\u00ebna e ardhshme e mir\u00ebpret me padurim ardhjen n\u00eb\nbot\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj jet\u00eb t\u00eb re q\u00eb i ka uzurpuar ekzistenc\u00ebn. F\u00ebmija vjen n\u00eb bot\u00eb,\npasi zhvillon p\u00ebrleshjen e par\u00eb me jet\u00ebn duke i buz\u00ebqeshur diellit, duke\nngrohur zemrat e prind\u00ebrve dhe duke i p\u00ebrmbushur ato me nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb panjohur\ne t\u00eb paprovuar m\u00eb par\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Por s\u2019i ngjet qiellit<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk i ngjet prillit <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fllad\u2019 q\u00eb sh\u00ebtit\nlulet<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

E me erna veshet<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Foshnj\u00ebs q\u00eb i qeshet <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nan\u00ebs, kur mbi te\np\u00ebrkulet.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Ndre Mjeda)<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ashtu si\u00e7 shprehej dikur dhe novelisti amerikan Larry\nBarreto: \u201cF\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb pluhur yjesh i hedhur nga dora e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb. Fatlume\n\u00ebsht\u00eb gruaja q\u00eb njeh dhembjet e lindjes, sepse ajo ka mbajtur nj\u00eb yll brenda saj\u201d.\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Gladiola Jorbus Ime bij\u00eb m\u00eb pyet shpeshher\u00eb: – Ku jetoja un\u00eb para se t\u00eb isha n\u00eb barkun t\u00ebnd? \u2013 N\u00eb zemr\u00ebn time, – i p\u00ebrgjigjem duke e p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur dhe shtr\u00ebnguar fort n\u00eb p\u00ebrqafimin tim.  N\u00eb fakt mendoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb foshnja ngjizet dhe lind fillimisht, n\u00eb mendjen dhe zemr\u00ebn e prind\u00ebrve […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":19081,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21517","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21517","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=21517"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21517\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21518,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21517\/revisions\/21518"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/19081"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=21517"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=21517"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=21517"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}