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Nga Gladiola JORBUS
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Miqt\u00eb jan\u00eb nj\u00eb aset me vler\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Dashuria\nndaj tyre sfidon vetveten dhe mbijeton n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gjat\u00ebsi vale dhe shtrirje\nkohore me jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. \u201cNga t\u00eb gjitha ato mallra q\u00eb men\u00e7uria siguron p\u00ebr\nlumturin\u00eb, m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishmja \u00ebsht\u00eb blerja e miq\u00ebsis\u00eb”. Ky gjykim epikurian\nshpreh vler\u00ebsimin e vazhduesh\u00ebm mbi miq\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb ka karakterizuar t\u00eb gjitha\nkulturat.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sipas\nkonceptit biblik, miq\u00ebsia zgjeron horizontin me vizione t\u00eb tjera shpirt\u00ebrore\ndhe njer\u00ebzore, madje \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb virtyt dhe dhurat\u00eb nj\u00ebherazi. P.sh.: figurat\nmiq\u00ebsore t\u00eb mish\u00ebruara nga Davidi dhe Jonatani jan\u00eb emblematike. N\u00eb let\u00ebrsin\u00eb\nbot\u00ebrore kemi plot shembuj miq\u00ebsish si ajo midis: Sherlok\nHolms dhe Uatson (Sherlok Holms, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle); Harry Potter dhe Ron \u00cbeasley (<\/strong><\/em>Harry\nPotter<\/em><\/a>, JK Rouling); Atos, Portos e Aramis (Tre musketier\u00ebt,\nAleksand\u00ebr Dyma, me formul\u00ebn unike \u201cNj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb\u201d); Hak\u00ebllb\u00ebrri\nFin dhe Tom Sojer (Aventurat e Tom Sojerit, Mark Tuein); Santiago dhe Manolo\n(Plaku dhe deti, Ernest Heminguej \u2013 k\u00ebtu kuptojm\u00eb se s\u2019duhet t\u00eb kemi t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn\nmosh\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb miq); Akili dhe Patrokli(Iliada, Homeri – Akili kryelart\u00eb\ndhe i ashp\u00ebr, por shum\u00eb protektiv kundrejt mikut t\u00eb tij).<\/em><\/strong><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Megjithat\u00eb, miq\u00ebsia, edhe pse p\u00ebrmban komponent\u00eb\nsentimental\u00eb, shkon p\u00ebrtej seksualitetit dhe erosit; ajo kap\u00ebrcen interesin,\ninstiktet dhe vendoset n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e dhurimit t\u00eb lir\u00eb t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb, bashkimit t\u00eb\njet\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrvojave. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja pse Aristoteli e vendos at\u00eb n\u00eb\nkategorin\u00eb e virtytit. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb aleanc\u00eb q\u00eb u ofron njer\u00ebzve, arsyetime logjike\ndhe frym\u00ebzim p\u00ebr t\u00eb ecur s\u00eb bashku drejt s\u00eb mir\u00ebs m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Miq\u00ebsia e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb gjallon n\u00ebn frym\u00ebn e dialogut,\nsimpatis\u00eb, besimit, reciprocitetit dhe sakrific\u00ebs. Shpeshher\u00eb, miqt\u00eb dallojn\u00eb\nnga nj\u00ebri-tjetri, sepse vet\u00eb njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb cil\u00ebsi t\u00eb ndryshme. P\u00ebr t\u00eb patur sa\nm\u00eb shum\u00eb miq dhe raporte t\u00eb forta, duhet t\u00eb fokusohemi n\u00eb an\u00ebt pozitive t\u00eb\npersonave, t\u00eb shohim p\u00ebrtej sip\u00ebrfaqes dhe t\u00eb vler\u00ebsojm\u00eb cil\u00ebsit\u00eb e mira. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gjithsesi, sinqeriteti mbetet nj\u00eb arm\u00eb ky\u00e7e e nj\u00eb\nmiq\u00ebsie afatgjat\u00eb, pa reshtur s\u00eb qeni realist: me miqt\u00eb mund t\u00eb qesh\u00ebsh ose t\u00eb qash,\nt\u00eb jesh budalla ose serioz dhe nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh ngroht\u00ebsin\u00eb e suportin e lidhjes\ns\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket prirjeve dashamir\u00ebse p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nkontribuar n\u00eb momente nevoje, mund t\u00eb pohojm\u00eb se miqt\u00eb e mir\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb arg\u00ebtohen\nn\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb mira, por p\u00ebrcaktimi i miqve t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ndodh kur ata tregojn\u00eb\ndelikates\u00ebn e mb\u00ebshtetjen e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dihet se gabimet jan\u00eb pjes\u00eb e jet\u00ebs: miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb\nnuk t\u00eb \u201ckryq\u00ebzojn\u00eb\u201d n\u00ebse gabon; ne jemi t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzor\u00eb, dhe gabimet jan\u00eb\nt\u00eb pashmangshme. Miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb rriten dhe p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohen s\u00eb bashku. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr komponent interesant \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe ekuilibrimi\ni fuqis\u00eb: peshorja te miq\u00ebsit\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta nuk anon nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dominuar\nk\u00ebshtu mbi tjetr\u00ebn, por ekuilibrimi i njohurive dhe potencialit do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebkuptuarit,\nt\u00eb pranuarit, mb\u00ebshtetje e dyanshme, interes i duhur p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar fjal\u00ebt e\npashprehura, p\u00ebr t\u00eb lexuar mimik\u00ebn e shokut\/es dhe shpirtin e tij. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb kan\u00eb guximin t\u00eb flasin hapur me\nnj\u00ebri-tjetrin, pa u l\u00ebn\u00eb vend, as urrejtjes dhe as inatit q\u00eb t\u00eb rriten midis\ntyre. Miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb, dhe pasi t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb, jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb falin\ne t\u00eb pranojn\u00eb. Solidariteti dhe toleranca jan\u00eb elemente jetike t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies\nmiq\u00ebsore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Besnik\u00ebria\ndhe p\u00ebrkujdesja: n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, besnik\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebsi dhe p\u00ebrkujdesja\ne pason. Shok\u00ebt e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb pran\u00eb, nuk t\u00eb shesin dhe as t\u00eb kthejn\u00eb\nshpin\u00ebn. Ata ecin p\u00ebrbri nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, edhe pse jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb dinamike dhe\nnjer\u00ebzit ndryshojn\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Miqt\u00eb i japin nj\u00ebri-tjetrit hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e duhur p\u00ebr\nt’u rritur, koh\u00ebn si domosdoshm\u00ebri p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar dhe der\u00ebn e l\u00ebn\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb\nhapur p\u00ebr t\u2019u kthyer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb mblidhen s\u00eb bashku, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00e7do\ndit\u00eb, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebr dit\u00eblindje, ndoshta dhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb vit a m\u00eb rrall\u00eb, p\u00ebr\nshkak t\u00eb ritmeve t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, gjeografis\u00eb, obligimeve t\u00eb panum\u00ebrta etj., por ata gjithmon\u00eb\nndihen t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb dhe bisedat mes tyre rrjedhin fluide, t\u00eb qashtra, pa\nqejfmbetje a t\u00eb tjera dob\u00ebsi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb fund, miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb festojn\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do sukses t\u00eb\nnj\u00ebri-tjetrit, duke dashur k\u00ebshtu m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn p\u00ebr shoku \u2013shokun. Jo m\u00eb kot kan\u00eb\nth\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201dKush gjen nj\u00eb mik,gjen nj\u00eb thesar\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Gladiola JORBUS Miqt\u00eb jan\u00eb nj\u00eb aset me vler\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Dashuria ndaj tyre sfidon vetveten dhe mbijeton n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gjat\u00ebsi vale dhe shtrirje kohore me jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. \u201cNga t\u00eb gjitha ato mallra q\u00eb men\u00e7uria siguron p\u00ebr lumturin\u00eb, m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishmja \u00ebsht\u00eb blerja e miq\u00ebsis\u00eb”. Ky gjykim epikurian shpreh vler\u00ebsimin e vazhduesh\u00ebm mbi […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":19081,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[2186],"class_list":["post-21484","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione","tag-gladiola-jorbus"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21484","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=21484"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21484\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21485,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21484\/revisions\/21485"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/19081"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=21484"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=21484"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=21484"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}