{"id":16550,"date":"2017-11-19T17:09:16","date_gmt":"2017-11-19T16:09:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/?p=16550"},"modified":"2017-11-19T17:20:17","modified_gmt":"2017-11-19T16:20:17","slug":"bota-femerore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/?p=16550","title":{"rendered":"BOTA FEM\u00cbRORE"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Shkruan Albina Osmani Markasheviq<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gjinia fem\u00ebrore \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ne vete, prandaj shum\u00eb femra (me p\u00ebrjashtime) kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u krahasuar me nj\u00ebra tjetr\u00ebn, qoft\u00eb me vet\u00ebdije apo pa vet\u00ebdije. N\u00eb ve\u00e7anti, ky krahasim vjen n\u00eb shprehje, ose b\u00ebhet tep\u00ebr i duksh\u00ebm dhe m\u00eb i p\u00ebrfolsh\u00ebm. Kur nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr gjysm\u00eb e formuar, ose me plot mungesa n\u00eb karakter dhe profesion, ndjehet e rrezikuar nga nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e ngritur, ka nj\u00eb formim personaliteti relativisht t\u00eb plot\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtjellur me ngjyrime karizmatike t\u00eb shpirtit emancipues. Nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr me nj\u00eb shpirt t\u00eb lart\u00ebsuar, mendje t\u00eb ndritur, pamje josh\u00ebse, q\u00ebndrim elegant dhe rrezatues, gjithmon provokon dhe zgjon shqisat dashakeqe t\u00eb femrave, t\u00eb cilat i kan\u00eb t\u00eb mang\u00ebta k\u00ebto virtyte njer\u00ebzore.<\/p>\n

Prandaj, si rrjedhoj, n\u00eb mes t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre dy grupeve fem\u00ebrore, pas shpine ose pas dyerve t\u00eb mbyllura, zhvillohet nj\u00eb luft\u00eb verbale, jokonstruktive dhe dashakeq\u00ebse. Pra, femra gjysm\u00eb e formuar, n\u00eb pamund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb konkuruar dhe garuar me nivelin e femr\u00ebs s\u00eb emancipuar n\u00eb baz\u00eb meritore, ajo p\u00ebrzgjedh ta sulmoj ose godas\u00eb dinjitetin dhe integritetin e saj, pa baz\u00eb dhe argumente t\u00eb arsyeshme. N\u00eb kontekst t\u00eb k\u00ebtij sulmi moral dhe profesional, n\u00eb mes t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre dy grupeve, zhvillohen pole t\u00eb kund\u00ebrta, me energji armiq\u00ebsore dhe regresive. Disa nga arsyet pse jan\u00eb ngritur k\u00ebto mure p\u00ebrplas\u00ebse ose kund\u00ebrshtuese mes k\u00ebtyre dy grupeve t\u00eb femrave, do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqena q\u00eb t\u2019i shqellojm\u00eb n\u00eb vazhdim t\u00eb k\u00ebtij shkrimi.<\/p>\n

Femra e natyrshme dhe me pasion p\u00ebr t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbyer shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb denj\u00eb, dallon n\u00eb shum\u00eb aspekte t\u00eb formimit, n\u00eb krahasim me femr\u00ebn gjysm\u00eb t\u00eb formuar. P\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb, t\u00eb dy grupet, n\u00eb thelb jan\u00eb ose llogariten t\u00eb suksesshme dhe g\u00ebzojn\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb, mir\u00ebqenie materiale ose status shoq\u00ebror, por n\u00eb kuptim m\u00eb t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb t\u00eb fjal\u00ebs, por ato dallojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si jan\u00eb formuar dhe \u00e7far\u00eb rrethana dhe mund\u00ebsi kan\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzuar. \u00cbsht\u00eb ai lloji i femrave q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar me themel dhe n\u00eb vazhdim\u00ebsi, dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb ai lloji tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb gjysmake, rast\u00ebsisht dhe me v\u00ebsht\u00ebr\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n

Grupi i par\u00eb i femrave, kan\u00eb treguar gatishm\u00ebri p\u00ebr t\u2019u formuar si personalitete q\u00eb n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb e hershme dhe dashurin p\u00ebr librin e kan\u00eb pasur t\u00eb mbjellur n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb sistematike, nd\u00ebrsa lloji i dyt\u00eb i femrave nuk kan\u00eb lexuar asnj\u00ebher, por jan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb pas librit vet\u00ebm kur u \u00ebsht\u00eb parashtruar nevoja eventuale dhe mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzuar privilegjet dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb realizuar interesat. Pra, k\u00ebto femra nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb se e duan librin dhe kan\u00eb motivim t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb natyrsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb lexuar, por kan\u00eb motive t\u00eb jashtme , me nuanca t\u00eb thella interesi, privelegji, pushteti, statusi shoq\u00ebror, popullariteti dhe nevoja p\u00ebr simpatin\u00eb e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n

K\u00ebto sjellje q\u00eb shfaqen n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhshm\u00ebri me egoizmin e tyre shkenca e psikologjis\u00eb k\u00ebto persona i kategorizon si nevroz\u00eb dhe i ndan\u00eb n\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr pushtet, nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr p\u00eblqimin nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt e k\u00ebshtu me rradh\u00eb. Pra, derisa lloji i par\u00eb i femrave \u00ebsht\u00eb i pajisur me virtyte, aft\u00ebsi, njohuri dhe vlera n\u00eb vazhdimsi dhe kan\u00eb krijuar karrier\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb dhe t\u00eb thell\u00eb, duke apsorbuar shprehi pune dhe duke vepruar profesionalisht n\u00eb \u00e7do nivel t\u00eb fush\u00ebs q\u00eb ushtron, nd\u00ebrsa lloji i dyt\u00eb i femrave aty p\u00ebr aty shndrohen n\u00eb \u201ceksperte\u201d n\u00eb profesionin q\u00eb ushtrojn\u00eb. Lloji i par\u00eb i femrave ka njohuri t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme dhe t\u00eb kompletuara, kan\u00eb koncepte t\u00eb qarta dhe din\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb sinteza t\u00eb njohurive t\u00eb fituara m\u00eb par\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb zb\u00ebrthyer dhe trajtuar fenomene shoq\u00ebrore q\u00eb nd\u00ebrlidhen ngusht me jet\u00ebn, rrethanat kulturore, gjendjen psikologjike e shoq\u00ebrore dhe disponimin profisional t\u00eb nj\u00eb populli. Nd\u00ebrsa grupi i dyt\u00eb i femrave, kan\u00eb njohuri gjysmake dhe t\u00eb rast\u00ebsishme nd\u00ebrlidhur me profesionin q\u00eb ushtrojn\u00eb, duke i kamufluar potencialet e kufizuara profesionale p\u00ebrmes koncepteve dhe ideve q\u00eb i marrin t\u00eb gatshme nga burime t\u00eb ndryshme, me raste t\u00eb dyshimta dhe i modifikojn\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar p\u00ebrshtypje se jan\u00eb origjinale t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n

Grupi i par\u00eb i femrave kan\u00eb devotshm\u00ebri dhe diciplin\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00ebn q\u00eb e ushtrojn\u00eb dhe gjithmon mb\u00ebshteten n\u00eb nj\u00eb standard pune t\u00eb pranuesh\u00ebm dhe efektiv p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb, n\u00eb \u00e7do fush\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs. Nd\u00ebrsa grupi tjet\u00ebr i femrave p\u00ebrpiqen t\u2019i mbulojn\u00eb mang\u00ebsit\u00eb profesionale p\u00ebrmes l\u00ebvdatave, lajkave, g\u00ebnjeshtrave dhe manipulimeve q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar nj\u00eb imazh t\u00eb rrejsh\u00ebm, por bind\u00ebs p\u00ebr mas\u00ebn, rrespektivisht bind\u00ebs p\u00ebr ato individ q\u00eb nuk e kan\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilluar t\u00eb menduarit kritik dhe analitik, pra, q\u00eb leht\u00ebsisht pranojn\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb u servohet dhe leht\u00ebsisht binden ndaj k\u00ebtyre modeleve dhe imazheve t\u00eb rrejshme. Grupi i par\u00eb i femrave nuk synojn\u00eb t\u00eb imresionojn\u00eb publikun, as nuk pretendojn\u00eb t\u00eb arrijn\u00eb fam\u00eb, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb lavd\u00ebrohen ose t\u00eb shtremb\u00ebrojn\u00eb realitetin p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar respektin, por ato e tregojn\u00eb veten dhe pun\u00ebn e tyre duke kontribuar n\u00eb vazhdimsi, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjithshme dhe duke e realizuar at\u00eb mision p\u00ebrmes pun\u00ebs s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Grupi i par\u00eb synojn\u00eb mir\u00ebqenie fizike, mendore dhe shpirt\u00ebrore p\u00ebrmes rrug\u00ebs s\u00eb denj\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrplot sakrifica, nd\u00ebrsa grupi i dyt\u00eb synojn\u00eb paran\u00eb, pushtetin, fam\u00ebn ose statusin shoq\u00ebror, duke mos zgjedhur mjete p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur q\u00ebllimin.<\/p>\n

Kur nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr e v\u00ebrtet e suksesshme, g\u00ebzon nj\u00eb pamje t\u00eb bukur dhe nj\u00eb mendje t\u00eb ndritur, p\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb kur \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar dhe formuar si personalitet gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs, ajo sulmohet dhe goditet r\u00ebnd\u00eb nga grupi i dyt\u00eb i femrave, q\u00eb nuk e kan\u00eb forc\u00ebn mendore dhe shpirt\u00ebrore p\u00ebr t\u2019u krahasuar dhe p\u00ebr ta mbisunduar kapacitetin e saj, t\u00eb cilin kapacitet e ka nd\u00ebrtuar me vite, pa nd\u00ebrprerje. Po i njejti grup i femrave, n\u00eb pamund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjet\u00eb paraleliz\u00ebm me k\u00ebto femra, p\u00ebrzgjedhin t\u2019i n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsojn\u00eb,, p\u00ebrqeshin dhe demotivojn\u00eb shpirtin e brendsh\u00ebm, t\u00eb cilin e ka nd\u00ebrtuar me vite me radh\u00eb dhe me pun\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdueshme. Kur femra gjysm\u00eb e formuar e godet moralisht nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb denj\u00eb, kjo n\u00ebnkupton se vullneti i saj nuk q\u00ebndron n\u00eb gjetjen e formave njer\u00ebzore p\u00ebr t\u00eb konkurruar me femrat tjera, por ajo p\u00ebrzgjedh forma t\u00eb ul\u00ebta, dekurajuese dhe dashakeqe, p\u00ebr t\u00eb luftuar konkurenc\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

Nga kjo q\u00eb shpreh\u00ebm m\u00eb lart\u00eb, mund edhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundojm\u00eb se femrat nuk duhet t\u00eb godasin shpirtin e nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebs, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t\u00eb zhvillojm\u00eb dhe nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb nj\u00eb ardhm\u00ebri m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr bot\u00ebn fem\u00ebrore. P\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta ruajtur sh\u00ebndetin mendor, \u00e7do fem\u00ebr duhet t\u2019i n\u00ebnshtrohet vet\u00eb-analiz\u00ebs, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t\u00eb identifikoj nevrozat q\u00eb e udh\u00ebheqin n\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe t\u2019i mbajn\u00eb n\u00ebn kontrollin e duhur. Qasja progresive e nj\u00eb femre kundrejt nj\u00eb femre tjet\u00ebr, do ta sh\u00ebrbente shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb pozitivisht dhe nj\u00ebkosisht do t\u00eb prodhonte kushte t\u00eb sh\u00ebndoshta dhe t\u00eb dobishme p\u00ebr gjeneratat e reja.<\/p>\n

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Shkruan Albina Osmani Markasheviq Gjinia fem\u00ebrore \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ne vete, prandaj shum\u00eb femra (me p\u00ebrjashtime) kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u krahasuar me nj\u00ebra tjetr\u00ebn, qoft\u00eb me vet\u00ebdije apo pa vet\u00ebdije. N\u00eb ve\u00e7anti, ky krahasim vjen n\u00eb shprehje, ose b\u00ebhet tep\u00ebr i duksh\u00ebm dhe m\u00eb i p\u00ebrfolsh\u00ebm. Kur nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr gjysm\u00eb e formuar, ose me plot […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11940,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[499],"class_list":["post-16550","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione","tag-albina-osmani-markasheviq"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16550","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=16550"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16550\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16553,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16550\/revisions\/16553"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/11940"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=16550"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=16550"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=16550"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}