{"id":104,"date":"2014-11-07T21:57:58","date_gmt":"2014-11-07T21:57:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/?p=104"},"modified":"2014-11-07T21:57:58","modified_gmt":"2014-11-07T21:57:58","slug":"sulejmani-konstandini-si-fenomen-qe-krekoset-prej-femijerise","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/?p=104","title":{"rendered":"Sulejmani: Konstandini si fenomen q\u00eb krekoset prej f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Argezon-sulejmani\"<\/a>Nga: Dr Arg\u00ebzon Sulejmani<\/p>\n

Emri q\u00eb ka em\u00ebruar personazhe t\u00eb shquara t\u00eb jet\u00ebs dhe kultur\u00ebs komb\u00ebtare, nga dje e p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb do t\u00eb humboj\u00eb n\u00eb qenjen e djalit 26 vje\u00e7ar q\u00eb p\u00ebr arsye banale q\u00eblloi p\u00ebr vdekje 4 persona. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb e thon\u00eb nj\u00ebz\u00ebri, me aq sa z\u00eb kan\u00eb e ju del se drejt\u00ebsia duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb veten. E po t\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebta e din\u00eb se si \u00ebsht\u00eb vendi do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet edhe kuvendi. Por, me gjith\u00eb mend me t\u00eb le t\u00eb merret drejt\u00ebsia, ajo q\u00eb thuhet ta ket\u00eb liruar m\u00eb par\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb krim t\u00eb ngjash\u00ebm. Me shum\u00eb se n\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit besojn\u00eb tek ndryshimi. N\u00eb t\u00eb aludojne kur e kan\u00eb edhe me drejt\u00ebsine e k\u00ebsaj here.<\/p>\n

Konstandini \u00ebsht\u00eb personazh evident i t\u00eb sotmes. Djal\u00eb i prind\u00ebrve me fam\u00eb. \u00c7un i dy fytyrave publike. Dy njer\u00ebzve me pushtet. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne kemi s\u00eb paku nj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb: n\u00eb klas\u00eb, n\u00eb gjimnaz, n\u00eb fakultet, n\u00eb lagje, n\u00eb qytet, n\u00eb pun\u00eb e si k\u00ebto. Konstandinin e njeh edhe f\u00ebmija n\u00eb hapat e par\u00eb t\u00eb socializimit; n\u00eb \u00e7erdhe Kost\u00ebn e kqyrin gjithnj\u00eb buzagaz, askush nuk ja ngrit z\u00ebrin, m\u00eb shpesh se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve ja nd\u00ebrrojne pelen\u00ebn, ja zgjedhin ushqimin e drek\u00ebs, ja pastrojn\u00eb surratin e kosur me delikates\u00eb, ja tregojn\u00eb m\u00eb s\u00eb ngadalshmi p\u00ebrrall\u00ebn p\u00ebr gjumin e drek\u00ebs, e p\u00ebrcjellin deri tek porta e oborrit t\u00eb foshnjores me dashuri(k-l-ishe). Edhe ai parashkollori e njeh Konstandinin, ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i zgjedhuri i klas\u00ebs, i favorizuar tek m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebn\u00ebsit, me t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn t\u00eb flas kur t\u00eb doj\u00eb e sa t\u00eb doj\u00eb, me t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn t\u00eb mungoj\u00eb e t\u00eb mos i b\u00ebj\u00eb detyrat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, i vetmi me luksin t\u00eb marr\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshjen e m\u00ebsueses n\u00eb \u00e7do koh\u00eb, i amnestuar p\u00ebr z\u00ebnkat me shkulaflokje e si k\u00ebto. E njohin, e njohin t\u00eb gjith\u00eb Konstandinin edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb rriturit se k\u00ebto. Ai i prin t\u00eb gjith\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb, fut\u00eb e nxjerr njer\u00ebz n\u00eb\/prej t\u00eb\/saj si te ishin macet e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb s\u00eb vet. Ka prind\u00ebr famoz, me pushtet, biznismen\u00eb, akademik\u00eb, doktor\u00eb, etj. Ka paran\u00eb, pozit\u00ebn t\u00eb sjell\u00eb n\u00eb gisht \u00e7do rreth ku gjendet, fuqin\u00eb t\u00eb anuloj\u00eb gjobat nga me fantastiket. Edhe n\u00eb lagje t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e njohin Konstandinin.
\nEdhe prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ja din\u00eb Kost\u00ebs. I kan\u00eb takuar, ju kan\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar favore, i kane par\u00eb n\u00eb televizor, kan\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar p\u00ebr mbledhjet e tyre n\u00eb amfiteatro, etj. Jo ve\u00e7 kaq, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e din\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrtej t\u00eb gjithave Konstandini shum\u00eb rrall\u00eb i takon prind\u00ebrit e vet, as ve\u00e7 e ve\u00e7 e le m\u00eb s\u00eb bashku, as sa p\u00ebr ndej\u00eb e le m\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebshilla. E kudo qe te pyesin k\u00ebta prind\u00ebr p\u00ebr t\u00eb birin, do marrin komplimente e fjal\u00eb miradije. Ku t\u00eb guxojn\u00eb ta thon\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn m\u00ebsuesit, pedagog\u00ebt, bashk\u00ebvendasit, shoq\u00ebria. Prind\u00ebrit e tij jane gjithnj\u00eb nj\u00eb \u2018bank\u00eb\u2019 e mundshme favoresh, ku edhe n\u00ebse nuk ke t\u00eb hapur llogari s\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb t\u00eb duhet. S\u2019b\u00ebn t\u00eb prish\u00ebsh pun\u00eb me figurat e komitetit.<\/p>\n

E din\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb q\u00eb Kosta do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet \u00e7ka t\u00eb doj\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Do zgjedh\u00eb diplom\u00ebn universitare. Do t\u2019i beje prind\u00ebrit \u2018krenar\u2019, sepse do bej\u00eb hall nj\u00eb \u00e7ertifikat\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr qefin e tyre. T\u00eb jen\u00eb ata akademik\u00eb, Kosta do e gjej\u00eb me \u00e7do kusht nj\u00eb titull shkencor, pa\u00e7kase n\u00eb gjimnaz nuk ka patur -nj\u00eb lidhje q\u00eb t\u00eb lidh\u00eb- dy fjal\u00eb nj\u00ebren me tjetr\u00ebn. T\u00eb jen\u00eb mjek, do b\u00ebhet doktor i mamit e babit, pa\u00e7kase biologjia p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb ka mbetur nj\u00eb l\u00ebnd\u00eb qesharake nga ku ka qeshur me lot i ekscituar nga procesi i fekondimit. T\u00eb jen\u00eb politikan\u00eb, do gjej\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhet edhe diplomat, pak r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka qe ai ka qen\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb burim konfliktuimi e kurre urtak\u2026 (tri pikat jan\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i l\u00ebn\u00eb vend Kost\u00ebs tuaj).<\/p>\n

Megjithat\u00eb, ky personazh vjen nj\u00eb dit\u00eb dhe e merr \u00e7mimin meritor. Raste t\u00eb tilla antisociale, me fajin tek familja si shtylla m\u00eb e fort\u00eb e organizimit shoq\u00ebror, p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq ka me shumic\u00eb sot n\u00eb rrethin ton\u00eb t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb e t\u00eb gj\u00ebr\u00eb. E keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb se shoq\u00ebria dhe k\u00ebta personazhe lidhin nj\u00eb martes\u00eb interesi dhe nuk ja thon\u00eb asnj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn pala-pal\u00ebs(edhe drejt\u00ebsia \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb). Derisa zbardhet nj\u00eb dit\u00eb dhe m\u00ebson q\u00eb Konstandini t\u00eb ka rr\u00ebmbyer f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, dhunuar djalin, p\u00ebrdhunuar vajz\u00ebn, narkotizuar familjarin, ka v\u00ebn\u00eb plumb mbi jet\u00ebt tuaja. E keqja e madhe \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb Konstandini i lart\u00ebsuar nga shoq\u00ebrit\u00eb varfanjake gjunj\u00ebzohet gjithmon\u00eb mbi nj\u00eb shpin\u00eb t\u00eb sakatuar, mbi nj\u00eb varr ose mbi zin\u00eb familjare. Jo m\u00eb pak t\u00eb denj p\u00ebr p\u00ebrfshirje n\u00eb fenomen jan\u00eb bineq\u00ebt n\u00eb fat me k\u00ebt\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt vrasin p\u00ebrdit\u00eb nga pak, aq sa u\u2019a lejon rregullorja e sistemit. Me jetes\u00ebn n\u00eb pakufin\u00eb si ta ket\u00eb t\u00eb lindur, meq\u00eb vet familja u\u2019a ka dh\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00ebn viz\u00eb, personazhet e till\u00eb konsolidohen deri n\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebrguar p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb k\u00ebsisoj, gjersa na i prekin kufinjt\u00eb tane t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb. E at\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb von\u00eb. Shum\u00eb von\u00eb. Shpesh aq von\u00eb sa s\u2019pi uj\u00eb m\u00eb as: \u2018m\u00eb mire von\u00eb se kurr\u00eb\u2019. Shoq\u00ebrit\u00eb tona jan\u00eb t\u00eb vonuara pik\u00ebrisht sepse baz\u00ebn e v\u00ebn\u00eb mbi individualizmin.
\nKaq e thjesht\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb problematika mbi personazhin e Konstandinit q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aspak i izoluar por q\u00eb meriton v\u00ebmendjen p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fenomen. Zgjidhja, zgjidhja po q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e komplikuar. Me zgjidhjen do duhej t\u00eb merreshin grupe profesionist\u00ebsh e jo fytyra t\u00eb pafytyra opinionist\u00ebsh, jo OJQ q\u00eb rrisin mir\u00ebqenjen me lul\u00ebzimin e fenomeneve negative(miliona euro t\u00eb keqp\u00ebrdorura n\u00eb d\u00ebm t\u00eb t\u00eb ngujuarve nga fenomeni i gjakmarrjes), jo akter\u00eb skenash me prapaskena.
\nHapi i par\u00eb do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb ishte zgjatja e orarit prind\u00ebror me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, prezenca e psikolog\u00ebve t\u00eb mir\u00ebkualifikuar n\u00eb zyrat e parashkollor\u00ebve, n\u00eb shkolla e gjimnaze. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00ebsonim brengat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs gjat\u00eb rritjes, do t\u2019i jepnim nj\u00eb dor\u00eb n\u00eb zgjidhjen e problemeve, do t\u00eb kuptonim d\u00ebshirat, hobit, aft\u00ebsit\u00eb, t\u00eb metat, etj. F\u00ebmij\u00ebve do duhej t\u2019u gjendeshin pran\u00eb profesionist\u00eb q\u00eb e njohin mir\u00eb zhvillimin e personalitetit, struktur\u00ebn, dinamik\u00ebn, rolin e faktor\u00ebve rrethues(familje, shkoll\u00eb, shoq\u00ebri), q\u00eb mund t\u00eb japin ndihm\u00eb t\u00eb kualifikuar n\u00eb krijimin e identiteteve dinjitoze sociale, q\u00eb i njohin dhe din\u00eb t\u2019i p\u00ebrballojn\u00eb me sukses \u00e7rregullimet n\u00eb sjellje me baza nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet(alkooli, drogat, traumat, etj).
\n-Konstandini \u00ebsht\u00eb djal\u00eb. Kjo ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi p\u00ebr shtjellimin e m\u00ebtejm\u00eb t\u00eb fenomenit. Por, nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb nuk mund ta \u2018kal\u00ebroj\u00eb\u2019 ylberin.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga: Dr Arg\u00ebzon Sulejmani Emri q\u00eb ka em\u00ebruar personazhe t\u00eb shquara t\u00eb jet\u00ebs dhe kultur\u00ebs komb\u00ebtare, nga dje e p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb do t\u00eb humboj\u00eb n\u00eb qenjen e djalit 26 vje\u00e7ar q\u00eb p\u00ebr arsye banale q\u00eblloi p\u00ebr vdekje 4 persona. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb e thon\u00eb nj\u00ebz\u00ebri, me aq sa z\u00eb kan\u00eb e ju del […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":105,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-104","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=104"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":106,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104\/revisions\/106"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/105"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=104"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=104"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ulqini-online.com\/sajti\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=104"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}